hi i am a mother of a 21 year old son that just yesterday told me in a text that he has gender identity disorder so i came here to start this group.  there were a few clues but i never new cause i would have not thought he felt this way. at halloween he dressed up as tina from bobs burger and he had a wig glasses a t shirt and a skirt on. i knew he loved the show so i thought nothing of it. i thought it odd that he would spend that money and dress like that for one night of giving out candy. but thought it was cute and that was all. but he kept the t shirt on and skirt and the wig the whole next day around the house and i thought nothing of it cause i know he watched the show and talked about it alot. then a few days ago i saw he was wearing makeup and i asked him about it . he only had foundation on . he lied to me and said he was wearing nothing but i knew he was. so i asked him again at night to please not use my make up and he did not answer me. so i knew. i thought he was trying to cover up zits or he wanted to look like he had a tan. think deep down i knew something was not write.  his dad passed away a year ago and he has been very angry and i thought it was because of that and he told he was angry and confused and some had to do with his dad but mostly cause he had these feeling of wanting to be a girl. he explained it to me in a text that he did not know how i would react and was afraid to tell me. he said when he looks at girls he wish he could look like them.  he told me he is not gay nor is he a cross dresser and also told me he looked up on line how much it would cost him to get the hormone shots. he said he his looking for a second job so that he can pay for this and not burdon me with it.  i am in shock and i am sad and i am worried about him.  i have told family and 2 really close friends they are very supportive and told me just love him and accept him for who he is and not tell him your concerns. just be there if he needs to talk .  i love my son and i will support him but still have those feelings that just eat at me. i would never let him now about them. i just don't understand any of this