Parenting Newborns & Infants (0-1) Support Group
Feeding your infant and ensuring they are getting enough nutrition is one of the most important aspects of parenting during that first year. This community is dedicated to those who are nurturing a baby, whether breastfed or formula-fed.
I just had my second little boy in August my first is two and a half he has never been the most well mannered but a true hyper two year old boy. He has been fine for the post part other then every now and then acting up more than normal but it's when I breastfeeding the newborn and he knows I can't really move. But this past week I don't know what has gotten into him but he has been horrible he throws everything doesn't not listen to a word I say we have tried time out tried talking things away even busting his butt and nothing he doesn't even are he just keeps doing it. I'm staring to get scared he is trying to hurt the baby now he will try to hit him kick him try's to put things over his face and with in the last week he has kicked my dad's dog and hurt it pretty bad( it's a pretty small dog) then steps on my mother in laws kitten and picks it up by the tail and thinks it funny even tho we try to sit him down and he'll him no that hurts that not funny and put him in time out it doesn't help. I'm on the verge of tears because I feel like I'm horribly failing as a mom because I don't know what to do and I don't know what I did to make him like this.
You need to allow him to be a part of that baby's life, either help with changing diapers, bringing you the diapers, ect... a lot of mistakes parents make is keeping the first child away from the new baby and that creates resentment towards you and the new baby.
Time outs are pointless after awhile especially if they do not work, send him to his room instead. As far as the aggression towards the animals ect... he's acting out in anger because he USED to be number 1. You need to nip this in the bud as quick as possible.
You have some "mommy guilt" going on as well to which you will need to face in order to keep your life under control.
I have a 1 yr old (in 6 days) and newborn twins... imagine that shit!!! lol... I know exactly what you're going through however, I let my first born be as interested in the boys as HE WANTS to be, I don't force him to do anything. It comes down to strict parenting, and laying down the law even when you're feeding the new baby. I have been known to put the baby down go over and discipline my oldest... so don't fall in that trap of "I cant stop feeding this child because my oldest won't do what I need him to do" show him that you have NO problem stopping what you're doing to let him know things are completely unacceptable.