I'm hoping you all can give me some guidance on sleep, because I'm feeling pretty lost. My daughter is 3 months old (born 5 weeks early). My question is, at what age is it important to have a schedule (bed time, nap time, etc.)? I have been just letting her lead it, and during the day she sleeps not on a schedule, but when she falls asleep, usually while nursing, and then I'll put her down for a nap. She would do this 3-5 times throughout the day, for anywhere from 20 min to 2 hours at a time. Usually in a swing or bouncy sea (she's not a fan of her crib, at all, and sleeps in a pack n' play in our room at nightt. This had been working, because it wasn't that important to me to have her on a schedule, she seemed happy, and I figured that when she was tired, she would sleep. The problem with this is, during the last week or so she has been on a bit of a nap strike, and yesterday was a full-blown disaster where she barely slept all day (about 40 min total), and ended up awake and miserable until 11pm because she was so overtired. So, I'm thinking it's time for some more structure, but my question is, is she old enough for more of a schedule, and how do I accomplish this (without letting her CIO, which I won't)? How often and for how long during the day should a 3-month-old be napping? If I put her down and she sleeps for only 20 minutes, do I try to get her back to sleep again? If she dozes off and it's not her "nap time", do I wake her up? Should her going to sleep nap time routine be differnet from her bedtime routine, so that she knows the difference? At night time, we read stories on my bed together, she has her last feeding in a dark room with music sometime between 8:30 and 9:30, and then goes to sleep. She sleeps like a champ during the night, usually just getting up once to eat around 5, if at all.

I know, this is a lot of questions! Any guidance would be much appreciated!