That has to be incredibly tough, such a short distance too. Do you ever see her out if you are out that way? If she is out, how do you fight the urge to stop and run up to her, grab her in your arms and tell her you love her?

I wish I could help you with your questions, but I myself have the same questions. I have a couple of ideas of why my daughter abandoned us, but nothing definitive. What I can do is tell you you are not alone. I'm sure you already knew that from the number of people in this group, but I am replying to you in hopes that we may both experience just a little bit of healing.

Hugs

I am dealing with the same thing from 2 of my adult children and they both have children. I think I am about at an acceptance stage of grief, but still struggle daily.

I would imagine the hardest part of this is , wondering where things went wrong or what exactly caused them to cut off contact. My boyfriend is dealing with this same issue, there was no explanation, so all he has to go on is guesses. Of course he blames himself but he doesn't know nor have any answers. The estrangement might have been easier if his daughter had said, Dad I'm upset and don't want you to be part of my life right now. But because it was sudden, without explanation, that has been the hardest part.
I am trying to figure out how I can be supportive.
I'd like to have him have hope, but also with hope, I feel he can't move on. He is held in a constant waiting game, hoping that he'll have contact or reach out to him.
Hope can keep him going, but it can also not allow him to deal with the reality, that it is possible she might not be part of his life moving forward.
She has a history of mental illness, so to a certain extent that may be what caused the estrangement. But also he isn't willing to blame her, as he explains that is must be due to her illness.
But as you mentioned, the unanswered questions and the guilt that go along with that can be crippling.
I hope you find peace!!