I still feel like that to this day. Sometimes it's just too tiring trying to be friendly and I wish I could just sit there and relax. But I can't relax 'cause I'm wondering if the other people think I'm weird or a jerk for not being as talkative.

Hi!
I totally uunderstand what you mean.When I assert myself or speak up it seems as though Im the jerk since,how people react and I know I must embarass my parents but,they dont understand and their not in my shoes.So yh.My e-mail and IM(instant messenger)are the same my adress;JMRobin05@msn.com On my page it will proably show a yahoo adress thts because,Im sighned up to an epileptic group,in order to be in the group I had to have a yahoo account.Plus I use to be joined to ds group with my msn e-mail except I forgot my password to my page.I even tried a new password and used the same adress to the group they didnt allow it.So I used yahoo adress. from jes18/or jess =)

I'v been shy all my life and i'm 36 and still just as shy. I stutter sometimes when i speak up. I just get so nervous that what im saying when i do speak up is just so stupid that it makes it difficult to talk. no one around me understands that. That makes it harder because most people in my family or around me talk a lot. Sometimes I feel like a mutant because of how people treat me as if i'm not there. I know how you fee.

I am 41 and have been shy my whole life. Interestingly, I enjoy being in groups and have no problem socializing then, but when I am one on one with someone, I have no idea what to say and start to stutter and feel like a fool. My advice is to observe other people and learn how to be friendly, because you CAN learn even if you're not naturally outgoing. Watch them and see what they do and how they act. I also try to read the papers and watch the news, etc. so I have something to chat about. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. I am still shy, but with effort, it has gotten a lot better over the years.

Hello, I have the same problem, exactly as you say, me I act haughty to cover up ! Which is equally bad. I still don't know what to talk about when I am in a group or alone with somebody, I think hard and even force a nonsense talk, and get stares as well. It looks when u try so much! I wonder also what to do! The only time, I feel nobody is watching my reactions is when I am doing sports, that I have no time to <think that I'm weird>

Maybe u can try some sports too like me..

Hey

I am shy person too and i have all those symptoms you mentioned just as you guys. I am happy that i got an invitation to join this group. I really need to hear from other people to feel that i'm not alone who suffer from this issue. I am 28 old and i'm doing my master now. I'm not fro here originally actually. i have been here for almost 3 years and u wouldn't believe me if i said i have NO friends. i'm supposed to go back home once i got my degree however, i'm not ready yet to face people there. i think i came to the US not just to get the maste r but also to be a new person from inside to outside. My performance in the school is not good as i want to becasue as u know guys, being a master student means that u need to talk, show your ability to participate, and describe your knowledge.

any way i don't want to keep talking becasue if i started talking i wouldn't create novel :)

my advice for you is to start to force yourself since you are in young age. you can do it. start from the school i think once you have friend who is outgoing that will helps you alot. i imagine myself if i had friend that would help me especially in the class instead of setting alone thinking about what people think about me!!. I have faith that all of us can change no matter what age we at but we need to be patient. to be honest by meself i can't do anything but here together we can encourage each other

thanks

typo '' i WOULD create a novel''

I am 54 and have been shy really for my entire life. I managed to meet a few guys and I got married twice, but I met such losers, that I had unhappy sex lives (my second marriage my sex life is non-existent). I should have really tried to meet people through friends (if I had any) that would have been a good idea. But I couldn't have because I didn't know anyone. I have been shy and unhappy since I went to kindergarten. Before I went to school I was a happy baby and a happy toddler. Once I went to school, I could not get along with the other kids or make friends. I would stand in a corner by myself and I could not bring myself out to join the other kids in the schoolyard. I believe that if there was social media when I was younger it might have helped out in making friends. It is easy to just send someone a friend request when you are anonymous on the computer, and you don't have to feel bad if they refuse. I think that social media sites like twitter, myspace, facebook would have made my life a whole lot easier if they were only around then! Oh well, I can only make use of the tools I have and the time I have left.