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For those who are done with their affair and want to make things better. Please be respectful of others in your posts. Rants, tirades, replies that are off topic, etc. will be deleted.

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Don't Take This Personally, Just Feel The Nee

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Here's what the Betrayed have against the OP AS A GROUP!!! Not any particular individuals, just the group.

1. Your willingness to believe someone who is behaving unethically
2. Your willingness to help someone to cause great harm and incredible pain to someone who has never harmed you
3. Your complete refusal to hold yourself accountable
4. And your freely-made, freely-chosen decision to do these things

And there's no way to say this that is even remotely kind...This is my own personal observation and statement!!!

I would never, ever, be that desperate and dateless! And as an abused, disabled, spouse of a serial cheater who never has sex with me, I am pretty darn desperate and dateless, not to mention incredibly sexually frustrated, I's say that qualifies me as desperate and dateless!
deleted_user
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I do want to say, as a CS (who is no longer cheating) that at the time when the affair was going on, I wasn't exactly thinking clearly. And I am willing to bet that the man I was cheating with (who was also married)wasn't thinking very clearly either. Not an excuse...just a fact. If I was, I would have never done it. I understand how you, as a BS, would feel the way that you do. But I know that many of the people on here who have cheated had always thought they would also never, ever be that "needy and desperate and dateless". But it happens. Usually when you least expect.

And remember - "Don't judge...lest you be judged."
DeidreRenee
DeidreRenee
Maybe its me, but I can never understand why a person sees the name of a group/room, knowing what the subject matter is and understanding that it is a large possiblity the subject matter will cause them pain,yet they enter the group/room and procede to write a hurtful and mean post. I just dont get it? Why? I understand that you are in pain. I understand that you want someone else to hurt as much as you do. But you have to understand that this is group/room for people who have had an affair, and who are working there way out. Coming in and writing a hurtful post doesn't help anyone. It only hurts. You don't know or understand the next persons story and yet you judge them? Thats not fair. There are groups for the support you need. I suggest you find one of those rooms and seek help.