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Hi ... something has been bugging me for a while and I have tried to find information, but I can't find anything that has really explained this to me.
Several years ago, we stopped to visit with the man who sold us this (modular) house (with his partner). Before, whenever we dealt with this gentleman, he was courteous and friendly. I remember once meeting with him in his home and meeting his wife.
While I was gone, the dog chewed up some of the doors and exNH wanted to get another door to replace one of the worst damaged ones. He and this gentleman started talking; we had our daughters with us. We weren't there very long before I got the distinct impression that he was uncomfortable and wanted to get rid of us, although I couldn't figure out any (obvious) reason. He started getting cups and all sorts of little trinkets and giving them to us but also talking in hurried tones and practically whooshing us out the door. He even gave each of our daughters a ten dollar bill. I have never been through such an experience, at least nothing quite like this. I'm fairly certain nothing offensive was said and he didn't get any phone calls or anything, which might have indicated some sort of private emergency.
I don't know if it would have any bearing on it, but the man is Mennonite. I know some of the Amish have hex signs to ward off the evil eye and similar ... and maybe I am just "reading too much" into this situation ... but occasionally, it comes to mind ... and despite this man's general integrity, a door never showed up ... we never heard from or saw him again. Since the business does depend, to a certain extent, on word of mouth and referral, I find his behavior ... odd.
I've heard of people acting uncomfortable in the presence of evil and I looked up some things on protecting from an evil eye (which I learned doesn't mean someone is evil) but all I could learn is that there are charms and spitting ...
Can anyone help me to put this to rest? My daughter had the cup she was given the other day when she was going through things to pack ... and I did more searching ... it's just one of those things that keeps niggling at me when I think of it.
Or have you ever had someone act similarly when you've been with N (and sure, I admit if could have been a reaction to me ... or possibly, he felt sick all of a sudden). Just curious and wondering ... and never able to put this completely out of mind. I guess I figure if he'd just felt suddenly sick, the door would have shown up at some point ...
Several years ago, we stopped to visit with the man who sold us this (modular) house (with his partner). Before, whenever we dealt with this gentleman, he was courteous and friendly. I remember once meeting with him in his home and meeting his wife.
While I was gone, the dog chewed up some of the doors and exNH wanted to get another door to replace one of the worst damaged ones. He and this gentleman started talking; we had our daughters with us. We weren't there very long before I got the distinct impression that he was uncomfortable and wanted to get rid of us, although I couldn't figure out any (obvious) reason. He started getting cups and all sorts of little trinkets and giving them to us but also talking in hurried tones and practically whooshing us out the door. He even gave each of our daughters a ten dollar bill. I have never been through such an experience, at least nothing quite like this. I'm fairly certain nothing offensive was said and he didn't get any phone calls or anything, which might have indicated some sort of private emergency.
I don't know if it would have any bearing on it, but the man is Mennonite. I know some of the Amish have hex signs to ward off the evil eye and similar ... and maybe I am just "reading too much" into this situation ... but occasionally, it comes to mind ... and despite this man's general integrity, a door never showed up ... we never heard from or saw him again. Since the business does depend, to a certain extent, on word of mouth and referral, I find his behavior ... odd.
I've heard of people acting uncomfortable in the presence of evil and I looked up some things on protecting from an evil eye (which I learned doesn't mean someone is evil) but all I could learn is that there are charms and spitting ...
Can anyone help me to put this to rest? My daughter had the cup she was given the other day when she was going through things to pack ... and I did more searching ... it's just one of those things that keeps niggling at me when I think of it.
Or have you ever had someone act similarly when you've been with N (and sure, I admit if could have been a reaction to me ... or possibly, he felt sick all of a sudden). Just curious and wondering ... and never able to put this completely out of mind. I guess I figure if he'd just felt suddenly sick, the door would have shown up at some point ...
My office was located in an area where I had to walk the hallways with the inmates. There was a couple of the inmates who gave me the creeps big time. It wasn't how they looked. They were average looking guys, didn't have a lot of tattoos or anything like that. They would even smile at me when meeting them walking down the hallways. Yet, I'd get the worst feeling when passing them in the hall. You know, that hair standing up on the back of your neck feeling. I checked, and sure enough, they were murderers....bad dudes with long criminal records. Soooo creepy. I hated working there. Every morning I arrived at the prison, I could "feel" the darkness. Even on a sunny day, the environment was dark - like a huge black cloud hovering above the prison.
Dadda, I bet that man "felt" the evil vibes off your exH. I absolutely think it can be detected by some people. I'm so glad you aren't with him anymore.
I guess too, it can make sense that sometimes, when people are busy/preoccupied, they might not be picking up or even noticing "vibes". So, the different environment and quiet background ... even changes in the N (maybe intensification of evil, through practicing and choosing it) could have come through more clearly. The whole experience was surreal, as I felt like I was watching something which had been forcibly called to my attention. N never mentioned anything ... and I said nothing to him.
I had similar one time before ... my brother brought some creepy guy to my apartment. I really could tell that I DIDN'T want to know this "person". I made an excuse; said I had plans and they and I left. Later that night, I was surprised to hear banging on my apartment door. It was the guy ... and he wanted in. I called 911, because he started pounding on the doors and the window and saying he would kill me if I didn't let him in. I was terrified the whole time I waited, which felt like forever. The police caught him; next afternoon an officer stopped by and told me I "should choose my friends more carefully" (hah!). The guy had a warrant for assault with a deadly weapon.