Narcissist Trauma Survival and Recovery Community Group
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Right now, I really hate google. I mentioned I signed up for a website a while back .... I have stayed away for a couple of months because it drove me nuts. Can't (easily) find pages ... google is so easy to use for searching but I was TRYING to make some progress (finally) on that website and I am ready to pull my hair out by the roots. I am going to try Open Office to make the page and then just see if it will transfer. AAAARRGH!!
But, I was working earlier and finally had the brainstorm to make a FB page. I am working on the description of it now and then I need to figure out what first posts will be. I named it First, Do No Harm( ... Then Continue Process): Against Patient Sexual Abuse. I have been saving links and stuff like articles to my computer for some time and I am sure my "friends" get tired of my impassioned by highly unusual (?I think?) rants sometimes, so I figured that even though I have toned down, I can educate and provide a page for sharing resources and thoughts.
Hopefully, it will provide some ease of searching, too for others who may be looking for info ... but I figure though it may not be a "popular" topic, it might be of some value in educating patients/clients as well as family members and even professionals ... help them to realize when they might be headed for trouble or how to handle a colleague's boundary violations. THAT is at least going a bit better, though slow ... but just started it tonight. I figured it could also be a "sublimation" technique or something, but also purge myself of some of the pain. And keep me going til I can really make time to find out more about clarifying the law, etc on a formal basis.
And finally, drumroll please ... I was trying to get my daughters situated so I would have less stress leaving ... my younger daughter has withdrawn from college and has gone with her (new) boyfriend to speak with his parents (200? miles away) about living there and getting a job ... I am trying hard NOT to think of how many $100s of textbooks I put on my dwindling credits cards. Etc. etc. I have just been shaking my head and decided it's just going to be one of "those years". Everyone's insurance (car) is coming due and I have already made the announcement that I will be forced to drop coverage for daughters who can't pay ...I can't be passing on the family tragedy.
But, I was working earlier and finally had the brainstorm to make a FB page. I am working on the description of it now and then I need to figure out what first posts will be. I named it First, Do No Harm( ... Then Continue Process): Against Patient Sexual Abuse. I have been saving links and stuff like articles to my computer for some time and I am sure my "friends" get tired of my impassioned by highly unusual (?I think?) rants sometimes, so I figured that even though I have toned down, I can educate and provide a page for sharing resources and thoughts.
Hopefully, it will provide some ease of searching, too for others who may be looking for info ... but I figure though it may not be a "popular" topic, it might be of some value in educating patients/clients as well as family members and even professionals ... help them to realize when they might be headed for trouble or how to handle a colleague's boundary violations. THAT is at least going a bit better, though slow ... but just started it tonight. I figured it could also be a "sublimation" technique or something, but also purge myself of some of the pain. And keep me going til I can really make time to find out more about clarifying the law, etc on a formal basis.
And finally, drumroll please ... I was trying to get my daughters situated so I would have less stress leaving ... my younger daughter has withdrawn from college and has gone with her (new) boyfriend to speak with his parents (200? miles away) about living there and getting a job ... I am trying hard NOT to think of how many $100s of textbooks I put on my dwindling credits cards. Etc. etc. I have just been shaking my head and decided it's just going to be one of "those years". Everyone's insurance (car) is coming due and I have already made the announcement that I will be forced to drop coverage for daughters who can't pay ...I can't be passing on the family tragedy.
If oyur daughters are living adult lives.. living w/boyfriends, friends, on there own and not in school.(well, living with boys even while in school) they are ready for adult responsibilities. Which includes paying their own bills. If she withdrew from school and is looking for work. she is an adult and on her own. You should feel no guilt there. Ask her for the textbooks back. Try and sell them. They are yours, you paid for them. My parents paid for mine until I was done with school and then I was on my own.
Yes, a separate page for your research will be good. People looking for that info will find it, and not necessarily your personal info. This is a great idea.
This AM I am going to pick up Walnuts that are falling off the trees around here. Drying them in the basement and then cracking them for baking this winter.
You should go for a walk today too. Enjoy the change of season and dream of moving south!
We are not passing on the family tragedy. We are trying to save ourselves, which in the end will put a stop to the tragedy.
I read this today and now I pass it on to you:
" Feelings are like much like waves
You cannot stop them from coming
But we can chose which ones to surf"
I was so emotionally and physically exhausted that when I got done working, I slept and slept and slept some more. So now time to regroup. Think I will go for a walk or maybe a bike ride (since he didn't steal my bike).
I had already thought to sell the books; it's just ironic ... there is no sense of letting it drag me down ... and already, I hope she is learning, but I think it will take a while as she is now so set on her course and doesn't here how similar she sounds to last month ... it's a shame, but will keep the doors of communication open ... I know how important it is that I "not become Grandma" in terms of they need to grow up, take THEIR responsibilities. If anyone messes them over, etc or is wrong, then I will say something but can't necessarily drop everything to rescue nor should I and if they screw someone over because they get tired or don't want to fulfill what they need to ... doesn't mean it will be easy and THAT is where I know I will need but (probably) have trouble being strong.
Redfern, I need to get back into that (part-time) and yes, I hear you on the spending issue. I used to save all my change (alas, it is gone, for now) but would save hundreds that way before I ever touched it. My car will be needing more work, too. Just wish I had a heated garage LOL.