First off, thank you to those who replied to my last update. Will probably make this one shorter, but not sweeter. LOL

My car is 20 miles away. It wouldn't start when I was trying to leave a store. I had to go to try to find a snake as one of the toilets clogged and plunger didn't help. Charge light had come on; it was so wet from flooded roads the other day that I figured either my alternator belt broke or is not correctly adjusted now (I heard it squealing a bit, then).

Phone was still broken, so the woman at the store graciously allowed me to call and I left daughter a message ... she and her boyfriend finally arrived but no cables. So we got those, but the car still won't start. At first, it seemed it was trying, but not enough so I just had them take me back to the house. Wish I had a battery charger ... but the battery should be good, even if drained, as it is less than two years old. Hoping to find some troubleshooting info before going back tomorrow. I actually had a lot of tears that kept forcing themselves out ... the other week, I had tow flat tires and had to sit on the edge of the highway for about half hour before a man stopped to help me ...

... as yes, I can easily change a tire in less than 2 minutes, but the man from the church had torqued the lug nuts with an air wrench and I could not get them to turn. I learned that you can jump on the bar, though, and then they will often turn, as that is what the man had to do .... maybe a little pointer that can come in handy ...

I have no idea WHAT I am going to do, if there is a serious problem. In past, I had rented car temporarily and I know my daughters will help me as they can. I can't rent a car and don't get paid til Friday ... and things have been tight. Well, when the pastor guy stopped by the other day, I had talked about the problems still facing ... I was told that God will fix things, either now or "in eternity". I'm not real thrilled about the way the local churches lack of support and telling ME to go away ... such I guess, is life or the maelstrom that passes for one, for the time being ...

But I guess I will do whatever I can to the best of my ability. Past that, there are no choices. Just wishes and hopes, I guess. And faith, I guess ... that no matter how hard and bad things get, that better is ahead. But yes, it really does suck to know that nearly everything I worked for and accomplished has been taken from me by force, fraud or legal attacks and never, it seems, is there any recourse for me.
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Crystalcave: yes, $58. And you are right ... in fact, (sane) people who WANT a divorce ... do not make you a virtual hostage or prisoner ... they would have settled with me two or two and a half years ago. But when the POINT is not divorce ... found a text he sent me that I never opened when I was looking for my old phone the other day. It said something about me "respecting" him and that he guessed I will "have to learn the hard way". It's a threat, but not the kind one can do much about, it seems. Intentionally & maliciously bankrupting someone ... is apparently legal. I am glad to hear from you!

Thanks, Peacedreams ... and LOL. The spring was unwound (last year) so I took it out and tried rewinding it (had to break rivets and take apart a lot of stuff). First time (and never a surprise, first time) I wound it up the wrong direction, I think. So I have been fighting it awhile ... and that model, you have to buy a whole assembly, not just the spring or cord. Took the assembly in to the local shop; they insisted I need to buy the whole contraption ... a man on my route with a lawn/tractor shop (and 82!) told me he will take it apart and see if it can be fixed. He asked me right off if it was a Briggs and Stratton, so at least whatever he says, I believe he knows what he is talking about! And I got a lot of the front yard "mowed" the last couple days with the weed whip.

So it's Plenty of Fish ... never been there or heard of it before. It is nice to meet you ... I think I have seen some of your posts but don't remember if I replied.

Trisha, the homeowner's/auto policy is the ONLY thing still in both names ... in fact, he previously kept about $500 in reimbursement for counseling I paid out of pocket when all this started up again. He took himself off the auto policy a while back; in order to keep a discount, I had to put my bank account on it to have payments withdrawn. He added himself and the car he'd had for a while about two weeks before the payment was due to be withdrawn, plus changing the mailing address. Since I couldn't pay the whole thing with another $200 added, it also added another $85 charge (lost "pay-in-full") discount. So he put himself on two months ago, but has made no payment as of Friday. Thank you ... I hope the house does sell and soon ... I am ready to have a nervous breakdown some days.

Quepasa, thank you also for your kind words. I don't know about superwoman, just haven't had much choice. Plus, as time has gone on, I know whatever example I set is likely to influence our daughters and their own lives ... LOL I am not the one to rush in and "fix" things. When the girls were young, I used to make them spell what they knew and reason the rest when they asked how to spell a word. I sat down and helped my daughter reason through all the math problems (she was having a hard time and missing most problems, in about 5th grade). Sad to say, I'm often up against what I don't even know how to handle ... and so much of it shouldn't even be going on ... I'm sure I err at times and actually have little native patience, but I have learned to have it, as I have always trained new employees, etc etc. I learned that it can be fast to "do it all" for a while, but counter-productive in the long run. Plus, my belief is that my job as parent is to raise children who have the abilities to live successfully as adults ... whether they choose to use them abilities or not. The first year he filed, he used a lot of severe manipulation on them ... he still does, from what I hear, but not as often as they have so little contact with him now ... their regression and lack of adult experience has made it really hard to navigate and know exactly how much to "help" (but have a clear and frightening mental image of becoming like MIL that helps keep it real).