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I couldn't believe my eyes! Last night before dinner my Ex N BF rang my doorbell. He was wearing his backpack like he was back and ready to stay with me awhile. About 10 months ago he moved to different city and I thought that he was gone for good. Nope. Now he's been back in town for 10 days (according to him) and living with his son, son's GF, and his daughter. I think that his son is the only one who can tolerate him and he happens to be away on a business trip for another couple of weeks. The son's GF doesn't like him and his daughter and him don't get along so he thought that he'd see what I was up to.
I never let him pass my threshold and I let him know that if I wanted to get together for coffee that I'd email him. (NOT!) And that I had dinner plans which were true.
So there you go, they always try to come back when their N-supply is not good. So I got rid of him without a scene and now it's back to No Contact. None what-so-ever because bad attention is attention in their world.
Holy F**k! Crys
I never let him pass my threshold and I let him know that if I wanted to get together for coffee that I'd email him. (NOT!) And that I had dinner plans which were true.
So there you go, they always try to come back when their N-supply is not good. So I got rid of him without a scene and now it's back to No Contact. None what-so-ever because bad attention is attention in their world.
Holy F**k! Crys
This is a healthy relationship song....not what was offered to me last night! I've passed my Rite of Loving Relatioships ;)
It's the sheer arrogance of it all, isn't it ?
Wow - what was he expecting? That you'd be 'grateful' ?
Huge kudos to you for saying no. You are strong now ! My goodness, they never cease to amaze.
So glad you have read up on all this and know what it's really about.
Strength to you crystal ! :) x
Well done for showing him the door x