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I saw a couple of texts on my phone and checked them, earlier. Almost always, it is one of my daughters. Nope. At first, I didn't look at the sender, just the message:
"Sorry to hear your dad is sick. Just go see him. Bills can wait."
Then I saw the sender: Pg (problem gambler) is what I filed exNH as ...
Gee ... "bills can wait". I won't go into detail - I wiped myself out on the other post :-) -
BUT THIS ... from the guy who GOT a birthday card AFTER my birthday (shortly after physically culminating the affair he started ... and lied through his teeth about) that he wrote "I promise I love you" (who writes THAT?!)
This ... from the guy who told me I was "entitled to nothing" and just needed to "pack (my) things and GET OUT".
This ... from the guy who entered the house when nobody was here and SMASHED the dehumidifier in the basement when there was 75% humidity after it flooded ... a week later, our daughters were mildly sick and I was coughing up red blood ... from whatever was circulating through the vents. He didn't want to spend (maybe) $4/day for a week to dry it out ... because it would raise the electric bill, which he had to pay. I ended up having to buy another ... and $200 for doctor and meds ....
Etc, etc, etc, ad nauseum ...
This ... from the guy who just COULDN'T allow me to have 5 - 6 months to pay some bills and save some money ... and leave him with the house ... and all BUT my personal possessions. It's now 3 years, 5 months, 9 days since he filed ... and 1 year, 3 months, 20 days since the divorce was final.
Notice ... I DON'T call him a man.
"Sorry to hear your dad is sick. Just go see him. Bills can wait."
Then I saw the sender: Pg (problem gambler) is what I filed exNH as ...
Gee ... "bills can wait". I won't go into detail - I wiped myself out on the other post :-) -
BUT THIS ... from the guy who GOT a birthday card AFTER my birthday (shortly after physically culminating the affair he started ... and lied through his teeth about) that he wrote "I promise I love you" (who writes THAT?!)
This ... from the guy who told me I was "entitled to nothing" and just needed to "pack (my) things and GET OUT".
This ... from the guy who entered the house when nobody was here and SMASHED the dehumidifier in the basement when there was 75% humidity after it flooded ... a week later, our daughters were mildly sick and I was coughing up red blood ... from whatever was circulating through the vents. He didn't want to spend (maybe) $4/day for a week to dry it out ... because it would raise the electric bill, which he had to pay. I ended up having to buy another ... and $200 for doctor and meds ....
Etc, etc, etc, ad nauseum ...
This ... from the guy who just COULDN'T allow me to have 5 - 6 months to pay some bills and save some money ... and leave him with the house ... and all BUT my personal possessions. It's now 3 years, 5 months, 9 days since he filed ... and 1 year, 3 months, 20 days since the divorce was final.
Notice ... I DON'T call him a man.
Dadda, I am sorry to hear your father is not well. The stress of worrying about our loved ones, family and friends can be quite straining. Wishing you peace and comfort..... xxxx
I am sorry about your dad. and I am sorry the N in your life is playing games. I hate mind games. Mind games,mind games and more mind games. I don't even know where to start. Spring is in the air, and I think they are all getting a breath, a fresh breath. and we are in for a doosy of a spring.
Hope this at least puts a smile on your face.
My ex-NH has moved a very new girlfriend into his house and he has bought her a new car. I know this because about a month ago he made a special visit to my condo (40 miles away) to bring me junk mail and tell me. I never call or text him.
Well, this week I get an email from him. You will never guess what it was . . . .eight pictures of Angelina Jolie in the buff . . . tastefully done but totally sans clothes.
I have no idea what his intention was . . . perhaps some psychological message that I failed to comprehend??/ prehaps a mistaken email that was meant for some one else???? Don't know as there was no message . . . only the pictures.
Ns are strange, strange creatures. Hang in there dadda . . . again, I hope this made you smile. Hugs.
Thank you, Spiritsprout and Livelife. I agree that there is some ulterior motive, whether getting jollies in a twisted way or getting me out of the house ... but you are right. Point of no return came and went long ago.
I received a second text yesterday; I am, of course, not responding (other than emotionally and logically within):
"You need to go see your dad. No matter what you think he needs to see his daughter. I will give you money ... just go. Dont (sic) live with that regret."
I spent two and a half hours on the phone the night before last with my father. Now I am almost out of minutes, til tomorrow ... LOL. My philosophy has been, for years, to make time for those you love, while they are still alive. My only regret is that this divorce, mostly out of my control, has prevented me from doing some of what I was working on ... getting all the copies of the magazines that my father shot the covers and inside spreads for, when I was growing up.