Are there any books on the subject of Dysfunctional Family having this dynamic? Has anyone else experienced this family dynamics?

1.    The man might have a Narcissistic Personality Disorder and a gambling addiction. Note, the man is a functional addict – his gambling never gets to the point where he reaches rock bottom.

2.    The woman might have a Borderline Personality Disorder – subgroup – Witch/Waif/Hermit. The woman is the man’s enabler but she is very sadistic towards the children especially the oldest child.

3.    The man marries the woman (who has alcoholism in her family or origin but she’s not an addict but an enabler or co-dependent). 

4.    After they get married, the husband starts to test his wife to see how much s**t she will take from him.

5.    His wife fights back.

6.    The husband begins a campaign to destroy his wife’s self-esteem, so she does not attempt to leave him. At the time, the toxic couple has one child, which the husband/father brainwashes to side with him against the wife/mother. Essentially his makes this child his “Golden Child.”

7.    The wife hates and abuses the child but doesn’t do anything about the mastermind’s (her husband’s) destructive behavior towards her and the child.

8.    The toxic couple has a second child, which the mother grooms to be her and her husband’s “Golden Child” and they turn the oldest one in the “Family’s Scapegoat” yet the oldest child is still to some degree the father’s “Golden Child”.

9.    The man and woman play a sadistic game of forming two teams (Father/Oldest Child vs. Mother/Youngest Child) and fight one another or this other game: the parents and the youngest child use the oldest child as the family’s garbage can (scapegoat).