Motherless Daughters Community Group

For any daughter who has lost their mother, whether through Death (if it's been one day ago or 40 years ago) or Abandonment, (i.e.-drug abuse, mental illness, physical or emotional abuse, etc.) and is working through the grief process. This group provides unconditional support and understanding from women who have also lost their Moms and who truly care.

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RaquelS 05/26/2008

My Mom called me everyday. Everytime the phone rings I think it is her and of course I know it isn't but my mind instantly thinks of her.

Missing my Mom feels like being "homesick" permanently!!!!!

I wish I could have said goodbye and that I loved her. We argued sometimes and I felt frustrated and annoyed with her because she had alot of Mental Problems through out her life and since I was a child, so I feel bad, like I wasnt good enough to her. I miss her so much. I just swallow my tears and try to keep going. Losing my sister didn't help either. I was raised by my mom with my sister and now they are both gone, the only two people who knew me every day all my life are gone. I miss them so very very MUCH!!!!!!

When I am crying for my Mom I think.... I want to call my sister Missy and then I remember she is gone too!!! I feel so all alone even in a room full of people. I still try to do what I need too and I try to be as positive as possible. I also know that God chooses when it is our time to go but WHY did He have to take them both?!?!?!?
I will never know I just have to trust that He knows better than me and go on living the best I can and be a better person than I was before.

deleted_user 05/26/2008

Raquel, I want to say to you that you have a wonderful attitude on life. I commend you for trying to stay positive throughout your heartache. I too would talk to my mom everyday and that has also been the hardest thing for me. If I had a question about the family or how to cook something or a question about an illness in my kids I would call her and it is so hard not to pick up that phone and call her. I have talked to many people who all say that they too still have that urge years later. I miss my moms hugs the most. The way I felt so loved when she hugged me. I no longer think she is calling when my phone rings because I have deleted her ringtone from my phone so I won't hear that ringtone anymore and noone else will ever have that tone on my phone but I still haven't deleted her number from my phone and still always want to call her. My heart goes out to you as you have lost two loved ones and I hope that one day all of us can find some peace and the strength to go on. BIG HUGS to you ~Angela

deleted_user 05/26/2008

I too want to say how great it is that you are so positive. I know how hard it is and I admire you for this especially as you have had two losses. I want to call my mom almost daily and still wait for her call which I know will never come. You were good enough for your mother and more or why else would she have called you every day. Hoping you can find some peace with the rest of us. Take good care. Sharon

deleted_user 05/27/2008

Oh, Raquel - how strange the timing of your post.
My schedule is tight this morning but I really needed to come on board to say this - and found your post, so similar to my thoughts.

I've read so many daughters having the impulse to call their Moms before realizing they're gone. Like yourself, I lived/was raised solely by my Mom, so once she was gone I'd only think about missing making phone calls to her from work (if and when I got a job). And like yourself, I've spent months recalling/regretting the arguments we'd have sometimes (two women in one house?) - and how I wish I could take back so much. I haven't experienced that "need to call" feeling - until the past 24 hours or so, which is why I came on this morning. I can't even describe it - just sudden thoughts of Mom and then a twinge of remembrance that she's not here.

You put it so well. Like being homesick permanently - in your own home. I guess it's the mother who's the heart of the home.

deleted_user 05/27/2008

Big hug to you Raquels,,it must be hard to lose them both,,,i lost my mom,,but i'm very close to my sisters,,ofcourse its going to be hard if i lost them too,,,just hold on,,and pray for them,,and there is something nice ,,always remember that you will see them at the end,,someday,,,so,,dont let them down,,and let them be proud of what you've done with out them,, Yara

deleted_user 05/28/2008

I know how you feel hun. I talked to my mom all the time too and we had fights and I felt like I wasnt a good enough daughter to her, but I know thats not true now...we both loved eachother very much and I know she is still with me. As the same with your mom...she is still with you even though not in body. I wish I could just wake up and see my mom again, but we daughters have to keep strong! And I know you can make it through! Im here for you if you ever need to talk. Take care hun! hugs!!

love,
Kirsten

deleted_user 05/28/2008

I feel the same way. I used to talk to my mom a lot, and I would go and visit her every chance that I got. After six months it still hurts to know that I will never be able to talk to her on the phone again.

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