My boyfriend deployed to Afghanistan a few weeks ago as a contractor for some company and even though we had countless conversations about it before he left, he's doing exactly what he said he wouldn't do; He's acting like he doesn't care, he's constantly in a bad mood, he hardly responds to any of my messages and he acts like everything I say annoy him. When I spoke to him about this last weekend on the phone, he said everything is good and that he really misses me and cant wait to see me this summer and that he just had a busy week and now this week it's the exact same story all over again. It's getting to the point where I don't even want to message him. We speak on the phone once a week..if not less :/ and we text 2-3 scentenses every 3rd day or so.
About his situation: He's working a contractor gig (self-chosen) and I think things are rather "chill" for him down there, minus the long work hours where he's sitting in front of a screen most of the time. So his job is rather "safe" even though it's in a warzone. He even has his own room (no roommates) yet he's hardly ever in a good mood.
I try to be understanding, and give him space, but it feels so shitty when he calls me insecure and annoying.
Is anyone else going through something like this? Where your boyfriend has changed his behavior while being deployed?
I have to add, I'd understand if he's out patroling or doing something dangerous with guns etc, and having to share rooms with others and get zero privacy. But mine seems to have gotten a pretty good deal, He has internet access at work and in his room (constantly on FB messenger), plus he chose this himself... so why does he keep acting this way? Guess I just need someone to talk to and get some frustrations out.... anyone want to be dramatic with me? Haha.