I have been married 30 yrs.....but the past 5yrs have not been so great. My Mother passed away and on the day of her funeral I discovered my husband was cheating. My emotional state was a wreck because of the passing of my Mom. We had a discussion....went home and continued our lives, only to find out a few days later there was a lot more cheating going on than he reported. It went back quite a few years and with numerous women. I was devastated but like a fool I kept the Marriage going because of the children and grand children. (2). I am now at a point in my life where I still think he is cheating but can't prove it...yet....however I am unhappy and have been. The trust is shattered beyond repair. I have written a letter to tell him how I am feeling and that we need to look at our options. I am still so confused and scared.......but material items can be replaced and I think I would give all that up for just a little bit of happiness and self respect....