Hi my husband and I have been married almost a year.  I am 45 and he is 58.  We have been having horrible fights which started when my mom was dying 6 months ago.  I felt like he wasn't supportive enough because I didn't feel listened to.  In addition to that I don't feel important to him because he won't share his work calendar with me which makes it impossible to plan for appointments and if child care issues arise.  Any time I bring up an issue we get in a fight and he leaves the house.  We are supposed to go to couples counseling in a couple of days and I am not sure if he will show up.  I told him what he could say/do to help me feel listened to but he seems to not care anymore.  I am in therapy for myself to deal with child abuse issues and also being cheated on by my kids' dad.  I am able to take the responsibility for my part of the fights but he does not take any accountability for his.  I feel the only reason why he wants to go to therapy is so the therapist can fix me.  Very frustrated and need a safe place to vent and hear from anybody else who has dealt with a similar situation.