Background. Married when I was 19 and my wife was 17. We married because it's what we wanted and not because she was pregnant. Now we have been married for 7 years and it feels like we are walking a very fine line with it being over and that's not what I want. We both recently, within the past 2 years have had a dramatic change between loosing our jobs and starting new careers. And also having twins on top of the two we already have.

Lately my wife took the kids and stayed are her parents for a week and during that time we argued over the phone about some stuff, and at the house by myself I started getting depressed and feeling like I was loosing my family. She comes back and it feels like there's nothing there anymore. We talk about problems and some I admit i could do better on. But it feels like the problems are still there and not getting better. I know it's going to take time but I keep getting a gut feeling like she doesn't want to and is just waiting for me to give up and be the one to ask for a divorce. Its not what I want. I want to work through them. We argue about everything and current financial state isn't helping. She thinks I'm pessimistic about things and I feel that looking at our situation something's are not realistically possible. 

Example: her working. I have no problem with it. I encourage it actually. My only coverco is I don't see how we can financially support 4 kids in childcare. And when I bring it up she thinks I'm being pessimistic about the thought and I don't want her working. 

Any thoughts mainly on getting a feeling of progress towards getting better together would be appreciated.