Hello all, this is my first post and I am really at a loss.

I’ve been with my husband 16 years and married for 6, we have a one year old (via ivf) and we both work.

Ever since we have had our son things have not been good for us, we always argue, and I feel my husband is failing us. I’ve always mothered him, and he has a syndrome which means he mentally struggles in many ways (as well as his fertility issues due to the condition).

I have mothered him pretty much the whole time we have been together, I plan all holidays, family time, meals, our future, birthdays, Christmas.. everything.

I am a very driven person with lots of energy and keen to enjoy life but he is happy to plod, work at the pace of a sloth and just follow orders (although not very well he forgets everything). I feel he cannot think for himself, trust me I have tried stepping back and everything goes kaput.

I am struggling to live like this, I’ve lost all respect for him and now feel the love has gone as I want more.

All we ever wanted is a family I had dreams of a happy home, we do lots of family things together (as I plan them) but I don’t feel when I look at pictures that I’m happy. When I tell him how I feel he can not communicate with me, cant take it in and nothing changes and it frustrates me and makes me cross and tired.

He knows what the situation is but I don’t think he realises what the alternative is.

Anyone been in this situation and stayed and things worked out or anyone left and been happy? Any advise would be appreciated.