Yeah I don't think name calling in any situation is productive. I can understand and emphasize with how he feels but how you guys solve conflict in front of your children is paramount to how they (your kids) will solve conflicts in their lives later in when they become adults. I myself am also a liar. I have a family that I'm trying to keep together and currently seeing a counselor and will start hypnotherapy. My wife loves me but really needs me to figure this out so we can move forward together. In our relationship I'm you and my wife is your husband. She always wants to know the why and how immediately and I get introspective and need to think first. And i also get spiteful. I think your husband should see someone as well to help him understand you better and deal with his anger. Good luck to you. You can do this! But it requires strength, inner strength and understanding of one's self.

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I completely understand where you are coming from. I too have lied to my husband multiple times about financial struggles. It is so hard because I never intended on hurting him but actually ended up hurting him to the core. I own my mistakes and know it was my choice to lie numerous times but I also know that I can change! I know that my mistakes do not define me and that I am a genuinely good person inspite of my many flaws and the mistakes I’ve made! For me the hardest thing is seeing my husband so angry and hurt and knowing it was me that caused those emotions to arise. We all process things differently and are allowed to feel the emotions we do, in fact it’s necessary that we process and allow ourselves to feel the different emotions. But, it is never ok for someone to treat us unkindly or to call us names and be demeaning, especially in front of your kids. Yes, we are the ones that made the mistakes and lied but we are human. We make mistakes but we still deserve and need to be treated with love and respect!

Hi I am a 35 year old who recently came out with my finical lies to my wife I had made up stories about a fake job I had and When money wasn’t there I climes I had identity fraud to cover the lie, I make up a very elaborate story involving fake people to stall for time meanwhile I was buying lotto and hoping that would solve my problem, I am pretty sure my marriage is over and I have realized that I only cared about me and lying was easier then telling the truth. What I did was heartbreaking and now I am going to loss a lovely women who supported me even after I told her the truth, I am ashamed of myself. She are me reliazed that everyone makes mistakes but that mistake doesn’t define you forever you had the power to change

Hi, I am 53 years old and have been married for over 30 years. I am a liar. I too have lied about money and other stupid things. I tried to commit suicide over 5 years ago over money and my husband accusing me of having an affair. I have never cheated on my husband but why would he believe me. He accuses me of poisoning his food and drink. I tell him I would never do that, but why would he believe me. He gets very angry with me and he has run out of patience. I do not express myself at all. I keep everything inside. I do not communicate effectively. My husband physically and emotionally abuses me because he can not take my shit I give him daily. I feel better when he abuses me because then I am getting punishment for my sins. Don't get me wrong, I don't like him doing the things he does. It emotionally destroys my husband and it is not his job to punish me. He has zero trust or respect for me. I also have a problem with ignoring him. I won't answer him when he asks me a question when it comes to something I did wrong, or if it deals with what kind of person I am. He has called me everything in the book. He has spoken to me in kindness and hatefully, but I am not getting better. He has set many rules in place to help me. I will agree with him and promise I will do those things, but then I fail and lie to him. I am numb to my relationship. For years he has told me that he doesn't want to hear what I have to say. Why would he, I am a liar. I am afraid my marriage is over. I have offended greatly and have used up all my husbands love and kindness. I don't know if there is any hope for me or my marriage. I need to change. Insanity is when you keep doing the same thing over and over and expect a different outcome. I am mentally insane. :(