I just had a huge lie exactly like that blow up in my face and honestly i get that the trust is broken and its like that for me too and i know that your mother and your husband are totally different but i don't think that being called those things is right it has nothing to do with the situation of lying. personally i think that he has a right to be upset just like my mom does but it sounds like a bit of verbal abuse to me. Im here if you wanna talk.

I know how you feel. I accept that I am the one that caused the problems by lying. But the yelling and name calling is hard to bear. I want to just sit and take it because it's my fault, but it's tough. My lying has to stop and then hopefully things will work out. But I'm worried that he'll be gone before that happens. If you want to talk, I'm here.

I can relate to what you say, from both personalities and also dealing with the anger of your partner from what has been damaging to a relationship. The worst is you know you have let them down, however it is hard to deal with the backlash or names while arguing. I've started to apply some of the practices, identifying when I feel the need to lie and what the trigger is and will be starting more professional support in the coming week or so. It however does not stop the guilty feeling or treading on egg shells around your partner. Can relate to what you say and thank you for sharing, as it helps to know you are not the only one facing this challenge.

I get where you comi from. My husband is same way. I lie and I lie about everything. Even when I do come clean I lie about that situation as well when I already came out in the open about trust. My husband also gets snarky and abusive with his words I take it because it his way of coping with what happened. I say one thing and another pops up. Even after I promised high and low it the truth. It different. Yet give a few days the lie jumps back in. I try and ask God to help me with everything. He does and I every day get over the day. There are times i don't lie. And when I do...... my world falls apart. My hubby I know he does not mean to say what he says or do. I mean my lying is same as me having an affair. I broke his trust, I destroyed what was meant to be a trust marriage I turned it into a marriage of distrust. Spite. Anger. Hurt. Resentfulness. It going to take time and work. It going to take a lot of rebuilding. Learning again. I have to always remember that his anger is not towards me but towards my lying. That I did not trust enough to say the truth. That I did not trust him enough to help me. That when I tell the truth it will be easier. Yes he will be angry but it won't be as when I lie. I will have less of the snarky remarks and more of well done Love. You trying You giving your best. I can trust you. I see the change. Right now I have nothing to stand on till I have proved myself. At times it feels if he waits like a vulture for me to fail. But I know it not. That Satan wanting for me to do that. To feel like I am a failure. Like I am not good enough. Every day I struggle. Every day I put one step ahead. I can feel when I am going to lie. Especially when my hubby hammers to answer and he knows he has me cornered. It then I ask please step back. I am going to lie and say things I know not true to defend myself. My husband sees this and back up and gives the space to try. It a long process but don't give up.

Hello my name is justin. Im 31. Lying has been my way to become more than i am. Ive felt like i wasnt nearly enough. A second persona so to speak. Its time to break away from this and be who i am. Deep down this has kept me from loving myself for quite some time. Its a habit and it can be broken. The 2 easiest ways to keep from this i have found is to keep eye contact and to think before you speak until the truth becomes your second nature