I would like to begin that I have never been part of a support group before. About five years ago I had an affair and it cost me my family but I was so Lucky to be given another chance. But in the 17 years I have been with my partner I have kept things from her by telling lies not big ones, I have only ever done so because I hate confrontation and I know she would fly off the handle or worry. I am not a compulsive lier. Back last year I had a woman come on to me and straight away I rejected her. She then plade games with me she threatend me with with false alagations. And then she bombarding with me text messages sexual ones. So I took it on my own to play her at her own game. Hoping she would get board and leave me alone. Then one day my now ex partner found an old phone with the messages on it. I lied, I explained it was my friend using my phone because he didn’t want his partner to find it on his own phone. She doubted me which was understandable, then she would make jokes about me that I’m off to see my bit on the side.

Then when we were on our family holiday to Switzerland earlier this year my ex found more messages on my phone. Then that was it. I had to put my hands up to having an affair, an affair which never exited we never even kissed or touched each other.

The reason I admitted to having an affair was because she has caught me out on lying before, and I have only ever had the one affair. I thought it’s in black and white how can I tell her the affair never exited she would never believe me! Nor would anyone else.

I had no one to tell the truth to and if I did they probably still wouldn’t have believed me. It wasn’t until the woman who the woman at fault called me and my mum recorded the conversion without me knowing and then approached my ex and told her that tmthe affair nevercexhited it’s now all came back out.

This has made things worse she said I should have told her from the start. Maybe I should have done. But I was afraid she wouldn’t have believed me! 

I have been told by my ex and her family that I am a compulsive lier. I’ve only ever lied to keep the peace, and to avoid confrontation and to save my family. 

Even my daughter told my ex that she wouldn’t think dad would do it again. 

How true was she! 

I am fighting so hard to win her back she is my one time love and my soul mate.