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I resist that temptation

Loved1
Loved1
I feel really glad I haven't been giving in to temptation to pursue my current "object of desire" and it is allowing me to see the situation, him and me clearer. I don't want to pursue someone who isn't pusuing me, and everytime I resist that temptation, I stop feeding it. Using the "just for today" approach helps. I thought, maybe tomorrow I'll text/ email/ visit /call. And I've kind of come to the conclusion to stay away, and I feel glad, because he's not contacted me at all. I prayed for God to remove the obsession and know this is a tendency that goes way back for me. I also know giving in to the "craving" does not make the craving go away.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel for you loved1. It sounds like not pursuing this person is really really hard. I wish I could use that just for today approach when my withdraw kicks in.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Good for you.I used the same approach with alcohol-I may drink tomorrow depends and when tomorrow came I said the same thing.I do find the 'not phoning' thing difficult but as you say 'giving into the craving does not make the craving go away'. Good luck.
deleted_user
deleted_user
GOOD FOR YOU...I LOVE READING STUFF LIKE THIS....KEEP ON TRUCKING YOUR DOING GREAT!!
Loved1
Loved1
Funny, this has worked fine ... It's been almost 1 1/2 months without contact with this person ... now I like his FRIEND, who has ivited me to church with the 2 of them. And I'm like, needing to start from ground zero because again, it's bringing up thoughts of past obsessive patterns of behavior. I'd like to get to know him, I just know I NEED to take it slow and keep in mind my desire for balance, perspective, healing and recovery.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Billi, love addict.

Every minute right now I have to resist temptation.

I almost acted out last night but didn't.

You are right, dazed, craving doesn't go away when we give in to it.

I am in SLAA (slaaonline.org) because it stopped working when I gave in. Acting out doesnt' feel good anymore.

I also relate to that person's username, dazed. Love makes me feel that way.

Billi