Hi, I'm new to this site but today my gf confronted me about my lying problem as she'd had enough and she was threatening to leave me. I've been trying to get better about lying about stupid shit. "Yes, I'll take the bins out when I get home", "I'll do that first thing in the morning" etc. but it's the other stuff, the important stuff that she's had enough of. I'm devasted that she might leve and take my (for wont of a better phrase) step-son with her. I've been a liar for a long time but usually only about petty little things (or at least I thought) but I then entered the liars trap and had an affair when I was with my ex (and mother of my child but that's another story for another day and another message board!) so I'm pretty much tarred wuth the brush now. I want to and need to stop. Honesty sholdn't be that hard right? 

But I don't know where to begin. I'm not risking my entire future over something that shouldn't be that difficult to stop! But we all wouldn't be here if it was that easy so I'm here. On my knees. Begging for help. I've reached a low tht I never knew existed and I'm going through a custody battle for my own son (see told you it was for another time!). So this is my first port of call. A message board full of strangers - lying strangers at that - asking for any sort of help. A small light at the end of a long tunnel that I can start improving myself for my family but mainly for myself. Any advice, strategies, therapies or anything that can help me???? I'm willing to try anything right now.