Hi! I just joined this group a few days ago and I am hoping that I can get better with my lying. Lying, I have learned, affects other people, not just yourself. Lies will hurt others and affect relationships with those people. My 11 year, 3 year marriage is on the rocks because I have been lying to a man I truly honestly love with all my heart. With this man, I have a beautiful stepdaughter and a family. I have hurt him in more ways than imaginable, but yet he still loves me. However, I need to change because I don’t want to hurt my family anymore. I don’t want my stepdaughter learning this horrible, deceitful trait. I don’t want to have to stress about if he is going to find out that I lied, I have enough stress in my life. So, in joining this group, I was hoping for some tips and tricks that people use to help them. I start seeing a therapist but not till March 8, and I don’t want to screw up any chance that I have on saving my marriage. If I lie one more time, I feel my marriage is over. I have been researching lying and reading articles to give me some pointers which has helped but I have been lying my whole life. It’s not going to be easy, but it’s definitely going to be worth it in the end. That’s how I look at it. So, if you have any tips or tools that you use to help you, please please share them with those of us who are still new to this. If you see a therapist and they have shared some tools with you, share them with us. It will help us all in the long run. Thanks!