Liars Anonymous Community Group

A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!

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Armstron7984 03/11/2021

Hi I just joined this group because I really want to stop lying! I have a real problem I really wanna stop but every time I think I'm doing good I lie to the most important person to me "my wife" and she is about to call our marriage off. I lie when I'm scared or have the feeling that I'll be in trouble. I been lying my entire life. My family raised me to keep secrets and lie. And it is ruining my self worth and my marriage and my life. I really really really want to stop so any help or anything would be greatly appreciated.

dorito 03/26/2021

Ii hear you I am in the same position maybe we could be support for each other’s

Irish44 05/01/2021

Same here. Need help desperately

JoseQ678 05/01/2021

Im in the same boat i was raised the same way mybe we can talk and help each other out

Jcutt28 05/03/2021

I recommend finding a good therapist of you can. Like you, in my family lying was the norm and to this day, everyone in my family lies. One of the things that has helped me was first looking within and asking myself “am I honest with my own feelings?” the answer was no. I would always lie about whether I was mad or sad etc. Try to start with having that honesty with yourself and understand how you feel is how you feel and you shouldn't have to lie to yourself or anyone in regards to that. When I started being honest with myself, it opened up everything else. If you want to message me, feel free to do so

jjbks 07/27/2021

I am in the same boat! I was raised where the complete truth was not always necessary. It has been a struggle for me to be completely honest with anyone including myself. My marriage is ending. My career is struggling. My stress levels are through the roof.

This is the time when it hardest for me. Anytime that I am scared or uncomfortable. I have a tendency to dance around the truth to get out of that situation.

I know it is wrong. When I am calm or feel like there are no consequences. I can be incredibly honest.

I have any easier time being honest with strangers or acquaintances than I do my wife of 18 years. This is why I am in the position that I am in right now. Help!

MarTom 08/05/2021

Man - all these responses sound like they were written by me! I desperately want to stop and would love to see a therapist but the last time I discussed with with a therapist I wasn't even truthful to THAT individual so my wife doesn't want to go through something like that again either. What should I do?

Victory810 09/04/2021

And I join all of you. So what do we do? I'm in therapy, but it's not helping the root cause, which is fear of disappointing those that I lie to. Fear of being judged. Fear of looking like a loser. I'm 61 and I feel like I'm never going to change. I always seem to be on edge and it's immobilizing.

vicktastic 09/06/2021

I have the same problem. I lie compulsively. I want desperately to stop. I'm 40 years old and I've been lying since I was 10 years old to cover secrets. It started as a defense mechanism and then it became a habit that I find hard to break.

I start therapy tomorrow for it and I plan to be honest as possible about my problem because I know I need help. I feel scared because this will be the first time that I admit to another person that I'm a compulsive liar. I fear being judged, written off and thrown away because of the lies.

My career is suffering and so is my marriage because of this. I hope that therapy helps me.

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