Liars Anonymous Community Group

A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!

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ateamporvida1 07/23/2018

I am new here and have read some great tips on what to do when I want to lie, and I just wanted to say thank you. Like many of you I have lied for years to everyone about pretty much everything. I’m sure my parents always knew to some extent, but perhaps never really grasped the depth of my deception. My partner however, fully does and has recently been severely wounded twice by my inability to be honest with myself and subsequently, him. I regret every word of every lie I ever spoke, as knowing the truth has caused him this pain and to question everything I’ve ever told him. I dont deserve to be trusted, I know. I’m having a tough time though not berating myself and convincing myself I don’t deserve him. He is hurt deeply and I can’t change that, but I want to prevent future hurt and possibly the end of our relationship since I love him and believe he is my soulmate, so I’m here. I’m here to learn and grow, and hopefully with the help of therapy, to work through and move past this compulsion and the causes behind it, so that he and I can continue building a beautiful life together. I’m a liar and I’d like to lie about it, but I can’t anymore.

tvee 07/24/2018

hi, i understand the regret and i can really relate to what you're saying. i just lost my wife and the great life i've known for close to twenty years because of my lies. it was a great life. Your partner loves you and hopefully he will find a way to forgive you and trust you someday. i never thought that this was a sickness, it was just something i did and was under the illusion that i was in control. i know now that the people who love you can see through it. they may choose to tell themselves that it's not true but in their hearts they know and we liars know they know but we delude ourselves by thinking we can fix it if it blows up. i'm sad that it took me so long to realize that this was beyond just telling lies. but i know now and i'm going to stop. i want to say i'm going to try to stop but trying is not an option. it sounds like you can still salvage your relationship. i have my fingers crossed for you. i'm seeing a psychiatrist tomorrow and i'm hoping it's the first step in living a better life. i hope it happens for you as well. stay strong.

gwilly 07/27/2018

It's a really does make our lives a mess, and hurt those around us. But like you said. Berating yourself doesn't help, but figuring yourself out, who you are and who you want to be is step one. Then you work on figuring out how to get yourself to that point, and work at it every single day. Whatever things you find that help you on that path stick with them, push yourself, and keep looking towards the light at the end of the tunnel. It's doable thing.

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