Liars Anonymous Community Group
A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!
I understand so intimately missing the loved one in your life.
Especially the smell of her hair, her neck...
I miss it terribly.
I lied about money and the debt I had thru my company.
For years I thought it would be ok and we could always live the happy days.
Recently she has found out, and I even went and told her the full truth before it came all from someone else.
I am in my mid-forties, living apart from my love, we are having a baby in three months and I had to declare bankruptcy two weeks ago to avoid CRA.
I feel that Ive hit my bottom and I only want to have that time again, the sunny days when smiles and laughter were the norm.
I'm bad with money and thru my Trustee I will forge a new path towards that road.
I am a skilled mason and I can work anywhere; people seek me out to work for them.
I have friends and aquaitances that I spend time with and a friend who works with me.
What I dont have is my soulmate, my rock, my reason for being....and now the Mother Of My Child.
Perhaps when I have learned to rely wholly on truth, I may see those days again.
I tell everyone in my life what has happened to me and now, with this group, another step towards climbing back to her arms.
Thank you
Congratulations on welcoming your child soon! That is truly a blessing.
I understand the feeling your going through. The good thing is is that you are aware and stated your challenge in life, lying. The second step is to write down your goals and create a plan. Read books on shame, and learning to love yourself (look up Brene Brown), write down your thoughts and pain and be honest in your writing daily. Set a goal to not lie to anyone or be more aware of your thoughts and what you say. When you feel the need to lie, pause, think about the truth, and then say the truth. When it comes to the feeling of hesitation of saying the truth, learn to let that feeling go and say "fuck it!" Saying the truth will make you feel so much better. Learn to not care about what the reaction of that person may be, or the consequences. Our lies will kill us in the end and make us lose everything and everyone we love. The truth will set you free and will gain more trust and respect.
Hang in there. This isn't an easy road at all. But you are on the path to being an honest man. You can do it, nothing is impossible with God. The willpower and strength is within you, it just needs to be channeled with positive actions and positive mentality. You are not alone!