Liars Anonymous Community Group

A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!

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Jayt4659 07/24/2016

hi. I am a liar and really need help. It's all small and I don't even know why I do it. Suggestions? I am going to see a counselor and try and get some answers. This is ruining my marriage and I do not want this life. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.

gs1221 07/25/2016

Hi Jayt4659.. I'm with you on telling small lies.. I've also progressed on to telling some doozies too. Like you, I'm not sure why I lie.. I even went to see a shrink for it.. He was not helpful. I was no close to an answer asto why I was lying 8 weeks into my sessions than I was when I started. I also confessed to my priest. He was quite forgiving to the point that I didn't want to forgive myself. But after talking with him, I was able to begin to forgive myself.. And most importantly, besides forgiving myself was to begin to make amends to those to whom I lied.

To this day, between my shrink (not helpful), my priest (more helpful), and my dual path of making amends to those whom my lies have hurt and my trying to stop telling new lies (still a struggle, but getting easier), I'm making positive changes...

I guess what I'm saying is, is that it takes time and it doesn't (in my case) happen all at once. But I had to start sometime..
Good luck on your journey!

Jayt4659 07/25/2016

Thank you for your message. Tomorrow will be day one.

katmccord 07/25/2016

I am with gs1221. It doesn't happen all at once, and I have found it very helpful to include those closest to me in my process to varying degrees.
I recommend research, and lots of it. Understand your problem, and reach out on here when you have a tough day. This group has been a great source of motivation and support for me.

Jayt4659 07/25/2016

Thanks Kat. I'm gonna be a regular. It seems that every conversation is difficult because of what I have done. Hard to get through the day. I'm gonna go hour by hour and look for ew h one to be better. Thanks.

katmccord 07/27/2016

Good luck and we are here for you! It does get easier!

siwil1030 07/30/2016

Maybe we can help each other. I am a lesbian, and I keep telling my girlfriend white lies...I don't want to tell her those lies anymore. But I do... For no reason.

Jayt4659 07/31/2016

Siwil1030,
Absolutely we can help each other. It doesn't even make sense when I step back and look at it. If it cost $40 why do I say $25? If I can't remember something why make some lie up? I need to just say what's the point. I'm not doing anything wrong. It's like habit. Just blurt it out as it is. It's not like what I am even lying about
Is a big deal.

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