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halo2259
halo2259

I am a pathological liar and have had problems admitting it. There is always some excuse. I have a hard time with my emotions and put up a wall between my wife and I. I tend to use the lying by omission option a lot by not having a conversation with my wife about things that come up with my ex, kids, and family. These actions show her that I can't be trusted. She told me this morning I need to pack my stuff and move out. She does not see any progress. I have asked for forgiveness and another chance but I fear that it is too late. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make things right?

gwilly
gwilly
I think I would suggest you try this. If it's the not talking to her about things that is a problem and I mean things that you should have talked 2 her about then maybe make a plan to at least once every day have a touch bases with her moment or moments and go over the activities of the day. And all of them not holding back anything that you think might not be comfortable. If you did it every day that may show her that you are truly working on it and can get over it and give her some hope that she will be able to have some security in her life.
Joeu1741
Joeu1741
I think it can be hard to suddenly change from liar to non-liar. So I wouldn't commit to that simply because there is easy chance of failure (ie. it will take small steps and gradual progression to get there). But perhaps you should reflect on WHY you lie and omit things. Is it to protect yourself, are you worried about expressing the truth. Once you have a handle on that, at the very least you can share that with her. It might start the road to recovery with you through at least understanding what is going on.
halo2259
halo2259
I believe it's a protection thing for some reason. My ex-wife would verbally and emotionally abuse and I am sure this is where some of these issues came from. My current wife does not show those tendencies and she was in a bad relationship as well. I feel that I have a problem when I am dealing with something regarding my kids or family is when all of this happens. I don't think that I have done enough and believe that I am going to disappoint her if I don't take care of these issues. It should have been handled years ago if I had listened better. Are there any strategies that have worked for people?