couple of suggestions to help you out with your situation. I know it has been months with no response, but its better than nothing. Look, Its hard because you want a change right away. Build yourself little goals here and there to help yourself out. If you plan on telling a lie, think about what you are getting yourself into, the consequences you will have to face. You dont deserve this, no one here does lets be honesty here. everyone else here just loves to help but we just cant help everyone in the world. Focus on yourself and your problems. If you plan to lie stop yourself and just tell the truth. The consequences wont be as bad, but you will gain more respect and build yourself integrity. Give yourself 28 days without telling a lie, then you will pass your first phase because you will get used to telling a truth. We are here for you.

True. No pun intended. I'm now in a situation where my lies, secrets, and cover ups are catching up to me after decades. My life is shit and my wife is likely leaving me as a result.
I cannot take it any longer and i need to save me from myself. Baby steps is what im startibg with after my slate cleaning confessions this weekend.
Think small at first, see a counsellor if you can to help direct you as well. I am.

Another suggestion I might throw out there is that you read through some of the replies to other people's posts. There's a lot of good people who have worked hard at figuring things out and have made it a little bit of progress with they're lying issues. Read through some of those and I'll bet you will find some ideas that will help you get on top of it. Or at least get started figuring out how to change your habits. It's not an easy thing, and you'll note in the replies that they've been working on it for a long time. But give that a shot. Good luck

I agree with Gwilly. I dont post every day or journal every day but i read every single post and I try to comment on the ones thgat really catch my eye. I'm taking it one minute at a time and that's all I can do.

I am still learning and growing. I have been a part of this site for a few weeks now and I find a few things to be helpful.

1. Breathe Before Responding: just taking a moment before letting the lie come out and thinking about the impact has helped tremendously. I found that as a liar, I was answering without thinking. I was being reactive and not forthcoming. That moment to just think has meant the world to me.
2. Be Honest Moment By Moment: I found that when I let a situation build over time, the more time I had to convince myself the only way out was to lie. I have to be honest in the moment. Text, phone call, in person...I had to be honest almost immediately or the feelings of low self worth and inadequacy built up to a point that I needed to lie to feel safe and secure in my own skin.
3. Remove My Own Pride: I was way to focused on the outcome for me vs the impact to others. When I reflected on who I was becoming, I realized I was not a person people even recognized. I built a mask for myself I needed to live up to - protecting my true self underneath. That 'pride' to show the world I could handle things became my persona and to live up to it, I had to hide my true feelings and thoughts from everyone, even those close.

Keep reading and seeking. As the X-Files used to say, the truth is out there. Funny thing is, that truth is the easiest thing to find but the hardest to give. Dont give up on yourself.