Liars Anonymous Community Group
A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!
I've had a problem with telling lies for as long as I can remember. I never realized it was a problem until I became serious with this girl about 2 years ago. She was well off and in college. I come from a relatively poor family in comparison. We aren't broke, but no where near her families level.
I'd went to college, but dropped out. I started working at Lowes and had been there a little while.
I lied to her about going back to college to get my degree. It eventually went as far as me telling her I had Graduated. I told her I didn't want to walk at my graduation and lied about job interviews that followed.
Well, eventually all this blows up in my face. I got caught in one lie which led her to questioning everything else I'd done.
I really love her and care greatly about her. I hate that I've betrayed her trust and completely destroyed her basically. This isn't the only thing I lied to her about, but it's the main big one.
I don't believe our relationship is salvageable, but I want to get help and stop my problem. It's ridiculous and I'm tired of lying to the people I care the most about
If she says no because she's afraid of what she might hear, that's fine. write down everything you've said or done in a journal. Anything you feel you need to confess about to someone so they hear it from you and not someone else... do so as soon as you can. Trust me, its not the easiest thing, but a lot of the lies you tell... they might already know about some of them.
Just take a deep breath and relax yourself as you tell them. Practice if you need to. Let someone who's not involved in any of this in on what's happening. Whether it be a close friend, a family member, whoever. Just have them try and help you and help keep you honest. That's all you can really ask for. And who knows, maybe your girlfriend will like that you've told the truth about everything and reconsider. Just don't leave anything out, and really try and be genuine.
Ask for her forgiveness. She may not want to hear some of the things you have to say and admit, but she might be happy and see that you really are trying to fix what you did and that will make her proud of you. Just... no more lies. If you lie, correct yourself and move on. Try and start with a clean slate. You've got this!