Liars Anonymous Community Group

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MynameisBunny
MynameisBunny

I am a compulsive liar. I never really thought my lying was a problem to me. But now that I am in a relationship with someone that doesn't take my bullshit and also can't deal with my constant lying. I feel like I denied the fact that I lie. I lie about little things that don't matter. Which lead to me lying for having multiple affairs with different men. I have dig myself a whole of lies. I do realize what I did wrong. I know it wasn't right for me to lie. Yet lying is so comfortable for me to do. I do it without thinking. It just happens. I am here because I am asking for help. I admit that I have problem but I feel very powerless against it. Can someone please help me? What do I need to do to stop myself from lying? I need help.

gwilly
gwilly
I think one of your main problems is what you said, that you are comfortable with lying. That one thing has got to change. Along with probably many others but that one thing makes it so that you find it easier to lie and to be yourself. I think if you would look in the mirror and figure out who you really are and get comfortable with who you are, the lying would be harder to do and would end up going away. Figure out who you are and if you don't like who you are then figure out how to change it. Whether it's I getting more educated, a better job more or different skills, or a different personality. I think many X the things we lie about things we wish we were but are not. Figure out what those things are and work to become them. Then after that you don't have to lie about it.
MynameisBunny
MynameisBunny
You got me there. I actually don't have much of a personality. I just follow along according to the situation. Right now, I am having trouble finding myself and who exactly I am. Thanks for the advice by the way. Hey I would really like to have a sponsor who keeps me in line? Do you know where I can possibly find one?
hans45
hans45
It is great that you got on this platform where you will get support and understanding. I understand what your situation is, and your insight that you are helpless is a very first, important step. Personally, I have been doing a 12 step program with the help of a therapist, and I am now recovering. It took time, effort and patience. Maybe a starting point is to read the following article

https://www.recovery.org/pro/articles/liar-liar-how-to-break-free-from-habitual-lying/

My experience is that it is not reading, not talking to other persons, but going on a path of redevelopment, which has been taking me a considerable amount of daily work. But as I said, I am recovering.