Liars Anonymous Community Group

A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!

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cpabbott 02/08/2017

My name is Cindy I am a habitual liar. I continually lie to make myself look better than I am and I don't know why. Because of the lying I am loosing my husband of 20 years. When I lie to him it makes him feel like he is less of a person and that I do not treat him as an equal. When I lie to him it also make him feel like I don't trust him. When I tell the stories of things that happened in the past I leave out very important information that changes the story and that change will negatively impact me. I am so lost I need help! Does anyone have anything they are doing to help they would like to share? I don't want to lose my husband. I don't want to be like this! I am very ashamed of all the lying and deceitfulness. I have hurt my husband so badly that I may never be able to make amends.

lyinglucy 02/10/2017

Oh Cindy, you are in the same place that I was this time last year. Married for over 20 years with three beautiful children and a husband who wanted to leave because he just couldn't understand or live with the lies. We still have a long way to go but we have come a long way since I joined this group. It has been such a help to know that I wasn't the only one with this problem. The hardest part is probably to accept how much of a problem it is to your husband - one of the things that helped me was to realise how shaky the ground became when I lied, and how it seemed like quicksand to him. Also the fact that every time I lied to him, I wasn't being honest or true to myself - I was totally living a lie. Checking in daily really helped, although I haven't done so for some time. Reading how others are doing and finding someone with a similar problem is really helpful - people here are very supportive. You really can help yourself and I really hope that you and your husband manage to work together. It will be you that does the bulk of the work, but you can be proud of yourself for taking the first step and admitting that you have a problem and asking for help in getting better.

Frank71 02/10/2017

I really feel for you and understand what you are going through. Remember that there is only one truth. Think before you say something, or answer a question. The truth will hurt, but you only have a limited time to get it right, if that time elapses, it will be too late. From my experience and what I have read, what you have, or have not done is not as important as the TRUTH. Spend a little time on getting the truth straight in your own head, then you will have no need to make up stories. All of it, all at once. Only then you can move on.

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