Liars Anonymous Community Group
A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!
I am a habitual liar, seeking help on this site. I have been working along a 12 step programme, following the AA tradition, which proved to be very helpful. I have been finalizing step4 with the help of a therapist. 12step programmes require to have a sponsor for sharing and guiding.
I am an agnostic, having difficulties with the Higher Power concept as a spiritual foundation. Are there any "best practices" to find a sponsor on this site? I will appreciate any helpful comments. Thanks a lot.
It's a difficult road but definitely worth the effort. I personally am proud of you for this.
While I am a person of faith, I certainly respect your right to your own perspective and beliefs. My father was an alcoholic and as a pharmacist, he had issues with readily available and very potent drugs. I know AA did at least encourage finding something fundamental to your values to cling to and hold one accountable. They dubbed it "Good Orderly Direction," using the first letter of each word as an acronym, but whatever you do, I simply urge you to believe in something, even if it's just that the earth beneath your feet is stable, and that the earth is round.
I hope you can find encouragement and strength from whatever values you hold most dear as you apply them to your life.
I have encouraged several others to begin keeping journals. One each for truths and lies. As the truths occur more frequently, you can be encouraged and motivated by it.
Additionally, find time to talk to yourself face to face (in the mirror) daily. Practice being honest with yourself, and watch your facial expressions as you talk (watching is something new I recently thought of). Watching yourself as you speak may help you identify underlying emotions connected with your lies. It can also help you see what others see when you speak the lies and when you speak truth. And talking to yourself can serve as a catalyst for telling the truth because noone likes to be lied to, least of all by their own selves.
Hope this helps. We are here for you.
I am just finishing step4, doing a searching and fearless written moral inventory of myself. It has been a lot of work, and I learned that my fears and resentments that might trigger my lying. So far, I have been without lying for days or even weeks. For me the following practices proofed to be helful
- systematically working along the 4step program,
- daily journaling
- starting with mindfulness meditation exercises,
- finding a "higher power" that gives my hope and energy,
- some CBT (cognitive behaviorial theory) pracitces
- a set of cards with my own written values and guidelines written down (I read or recite them every morning)
I also adpated the OA short guide into an LA guide, and I am happy to share it with you.