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Lies from the past

applebottom16
applebottom16

i was bad with lying a few years ago. I had just moved schools and had severe depression and anxiety. I told lies like "I'm not a virgin", "Ive had a pot brownie" and even things like "my great grandpa is a priest." So I would fit in because those were the things my new school cared about. Then there were other things like "yeah I'm like typical Mexican kids my parents use a flip flop as a paddle" to fit in with the popular group of kids that (for some reason) wanted to talk to me and opened with the conversation starter, "don't your parents use a flip flop? It's like typical Mexican things."



i thought, and hoped, that those lies would disappear as I entered high school. Instead they've come back to haunt me. I told my best friend that I use to be a compulsive liar, not a lie, and that only seemed to worsen the guilt and worry I felt of getting found out. I know none of these are HUGE lies but my anxiety is kicking my ass because of it. I just need some advice on how to get through this? Please?

Aris911
Aris911
I guess that you could say that I am in a similar boat. I have been a pretty habitual liar for quite some time now. What I have come to realize is that those lies, no matter how small, require constant maintenance in order to keep them up. For me, it literally turned into my own little world where certain things that weren't true in real life were true in this fantasy that I had created. The energy that it required to maintain that fantasy was immense and finally when I could no longer keep that world stable, things came crashing down. Now I am dealing with a broken marriage and a broken home that I only pray that I can repair. My wife now doesn't believe anything that I tell her, regardless of it being true or not. Quite frankly, I don't blame her and I just hope that I have enough time to repair the damage that my lying has done before she leaves with the kids.

I guess that my point here is that in your case, lying will do nothing but cause you to expend more energy to maintain the lies than simply telling the truth. So what if people that you are around find out that you've never done pot. If they aren't going to like you for something as silly as that, then perhaps they're not the kinda people that you want to associate with anyway. I get it that fitting in is important, but integrity is priceless.