Think of some of the lies that you have told. Write them down. Try and get as many of them down as you can. You're gonna lie even to yourself on this, so correct even the smallest of mistakes. If you don't know the details, get as much as the truth down and put a note off to the side that you don't remember the details. If it's something little, you can confess it to whoever you'd like, that you lied and you are telling them it happened. Bigger ones, it's best to get them off your conscious and confess to whoever you lied to about it. It's not going to be easy, but it's part of the process. Otherwise, you have those lies dragging you down as they sit in the back of your mind.

Now after you've gone through all of that, see if there's a connection with why you're lying. Is there a repeating emotion that triggers it? Something you think about? Is it that you're afraid of the consequences? Once you find the trigger, you need to find a way to either work around it, or control it.

The best way to practice correcting your lies is with little ones. You say something, and you think about it again, and there might be a small exaggeration. Correct it right then. It'll seem silly and stupid, but the more it becomes a habit, the more your brain will realize that lying is not good and that it shouldn't consider it an option. You can say things like, "No, that was a lie..." or "Oh, I lied, actually..." or even, "Well... actually..." and correct it right after it comes out of your mouth. Trust me, after you get everything out and keep from even the smaller lies happening, you definitely start feeling better you can keep from the big ones happening.

Ok, now I realize it's hard to tell the people you don't want to lose the truth of what happened. Trust me, I've been there, done that. But he was an ex military cop, and all he had to do was a little digging at first to find some of the truth before the rest came spilling out. He told me the one thing he's asked for over and over was honesty... I felt so bad. But then he kept digging even after I told him everything. He found that I was actually telling the full truth now. He found things happened, and some things really didn't happen. Now it was bad of me to lie to an ex cop, or date an ex cop and then cheat on him and lie about it. But for some reason (and he doesn't know why, but I know he cares about me a lot more than he wants to admit) he stuck around with me through it, and told me he wouldn't judge as long as I told him everything, and I did and he kept his promise. The point of me telling you this, is that say you did cheat on your gf. She might not be as understanding or an ex cop who can dig to find the truth, but it's better she find out from you than from someone else... she deserves to know at least. Maybe you wanna do something special for her, and then tell her, or maybe you don't feel comfortable enough to do it just yet.

In either case, you need to find someone in your life, or go to someone where they do that kind of line of work (like a therapist) where you can tell them all the lies you've said or the things you've done. Someone you trust and would never lie to. Then as you work up the courage, tell whoever you need to tell personally about the lies you've told them. Start fresh and new, and remember to keep up the good work. I know it's hard, but you can do it!

Great quote: "Don't lie, it means you never have to remember what you've said."

One last thing.... you have to remember to treat it somewhat like an addiction. The moment you slip back into old habits again, the harder it'll be to stop the next time. Just fix it as soon as possible and keep someone close to bump you back on the right track!