Liars Anonymous Community Group

A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!

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gwilly 04/30/2017

This mess that I/we have created by lying to our families or others is a hard thing to fix. I have been working on it for 30+ years, and my wife has been by my side all of that time. It is a really long row to hoe (bad memories from thinning beats when I was a kid) figuring out what is going on, and then working to change my habits, thinking, personality, and everything else involved with being a liar, then also doing what is necessary to repair my relationship with my wife. She has had to deal with feeling scared, devastated, unloved, and in tears way more than anyone should ever have had to endure, ever. And at the same time, she has spent countless hours talking and counseling with me, figuring out the many aspects of selfishness, egotism, fear, weakness, and many other issues that seem to go into being a liar. I really want to stick with this, to keep all the lying in the past, and distance us from the bad memories and all the other bad stuff mentioned above, so I can continue to rebuild my relationship with this amazing women.

Tereehart 05/04/2017

I've found that it's hard but worth it. I have a lady that loves me enough that she is working through it as long as I try. It's not a day by thing but more a word by word process. Hand in there. It's worth it for you. It's worth it to become a you that you love. No matter who holds shit against you.

liar1970 05/09/2017

Gwilly so much of what you share sounds like we are the same person. I had always excused my dishonesty as trying to protect my wife from the harshness of the truth. While my lies have not all been about finances they have been all over the place from jobs I did not really have to meeting people for work when I was really working alone. That sounds strange I know I have a consulting business and have a partner who lives about and hour and a half north of me who sometimes comes down to work on projects with me on the weekend. One weekend in question I was going to meet with him on the phone as his kid was sick but I told my wife we were meeting her anxiety was flaring that morning she ultimately drove to the customer and saw mine was the only vehicle there. It goes to show that sometimes we feel we are lying for just reasons but in the end the truth is really the only policy that leads to freedom. I agree with you that this is going to be a very hard and long process and one by the grace of God we both can over come. I am going to take your advice and add exercise to my routine. I have started more indepth bible study and have found a Christian counselor along with confiding in the entire staff at our church about what I have done. Telling those outside our relationship especially those who respect you and know you one way is very hard. I believe this accountability network will help me to overcome. It has taken 40+ years to create this mess and it will take the rest of my life to insure my legacy is not of a liar but of a person of integrity. Praying for all of us here on this anonymous site that we get our lives right and can repair the damage we have caused by our actions and our words.

gwilly 05/10/2017

Thanks for your responses. Good things can happen if we stick with it, and like. you said 1970, it will take the rest of our lives to see it fixed completely.

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