Hey. I am replying to all the post that I can. Let me tell you I’m 22 years old and have had relationships I thought were real ruined because of this. Please don’t give up look up the 12 step program of alcohol and replace it with lying. If you can afford a therapists try “better help” or a real therapists which is better. You have to tell your husband the truth, write down all the lies you have ever told (start small) to your husband and write him a letter apologizing. Tell. Him you are changing your behavior ask for help. Try really hard. Praying for you !

Thank you. I can use all of the help I can get. I appreciate you taking the time to comment.

@ksb-

You are not alone in this - lying is a horrible addiction and SO hard to break. BUT it can be done - every person is different. I'm 38, been lying since I was a kid - have tried every single excuse in the book to justify it but all it has done is make things worse. I've lost jobs, connections with family, relationships and most recently almost my marriage. I agree with donewithlying66 - a real therapist is a way to go - but if that is not an option, I have found that prayer, daily introspection, and a journal is very helpful. I myself have gone that route for the time being. I pray every night, keep a daily journal and also for me, every morning I wake up and look at myself in the mirror and ask myself "if i lie today, what will it achieve? Who will I hurt? Why am I doing it?" Again agreed with donewithlying66, go to those that you have lied to, apologize, explain that you know you have a problem and also that you are taking steps to correct it. It won't happen over night but if you take it one day at a time you will prevail, just believe in you..know that you are stronger than this addiction. Stay strong my friend!

Thank you. It is incredibly helpful to know I'm not alone. And it is incredibly nice of you to take your time to help me. Good luck to you too.

Hi there, I hope you're doing okay. It was brave to confront this please stay with that feeling! I'm in this position too and it feels bloody horrible. You have already started! You admitted to and named the problem (remember that the issue is the behaviour, not you) and you are not taking pleasure in your wrongdoings.

I've started to make a conscious effort to speak less, to take a breath before I do say something and to really consider the conversation and the facts. It's not easy, and it doesn't sound like very good advice I know, but breathing really does help.

Please message if you need a struggle buddy, very best of luck.