Liars Anonymous Community Group
A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!
I am new to this group and have been a liar my entire life. I am 38 years old and in an 11 year relationship and a 3 year marriage in which my lying has/is ruined. I have lied to my husband from day 1, saying I was an avid skier to impress him, saying I student taught to make him think I was smart and goal oriented... I also told him at one time I was pregnant and wasn’t because we were having issues and I wanted to keep him. (Biggest mistake of my life!) He gave me forgiveness and told me not to lie again. Well... easier said than done. I continued to lie and we are to the point that he is fed up and doesn’t know if he can trust anything that comes out of my mouth. Now that my marriage is truly on the rocks and could be ending, I have been thinking about what I am doing and talking to friends and reading articles about lying and joined this group to get help. I made an appointment with a counselor in March. I am hoping and praying that I can change because my husband has said if I can prove that I can change, he will give me one last shot. How do I prove that I can change? How do I get the trust back? What are some ideas that I can use to stop lying? In my research, I have hurt my husband, am teaching my stepdaughter a horrible habit, hurt my mother in law and the rest of my family, stressed myself out over who I told what lie to and my husband is right, enough is enough. I need help!
I have a list of 5 things that I do either daily or weekly;
1-Pray every night and morning. Having the Lord in our life really will help.
2-Read the scriptures every day. See above.
3-Go over the money (this has been my big problem) each day with your husband, or what ever other thing is your big issue.
4-Read this blog every day, and maybe write something to it. This can help you remember the problems your lying has caused and help to see that you are not alone, and that many of us are also working on it.
5-Search out other sources of learning on how to stop lying, change habits, gain self esteem, or self help of some kind.
Go over this list with your husband, and review it everyday with him. My wife has been my best counselor. This will help him to see your efforts, see your improvements, and give him some security and build trust that you can do it. It will also help you build trust in yourself that you can do it. That is very important. Good luck. It's a long road, but you can do it.