Liars Anonymous Community Group
A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!
Hi, I'm new to this page and new to accepting that I have a genuine problem. Lying has always been something that I'd always done either to get out of trouble, maintain a false image, or to get something that I wanted no matter the consequences. I've lied to myself/others to try to justify my behavior or diminish the severity of things, I've never really cared enough about anyone enough to stop and see my behavior for what it is until I saw that I was going to lose my husband and how badly it had mutilated what we had. The though of losing him so completely made me want to find out everything about my problem and discover every possible way to get better because he deserves it and I owe it to myself to come clean. I'm on the second day of my journey and I have never wanted anything more in my life. I still dont know much about it or how to go about getting better but I'm eager to learn and grow.
You've taken the first step and admitted that you have issue. That's a HUGE plus. I too hurt my spouse with my lies and it made me feel horrible. I have struggled with lying since I was a child and I thought that I had it under control until recently. You can beat this because lying is the trick of the enemy. Surrender this entirely to God and understand that you can not fix this on your own. You must be willing to work on this each day and continue the journey. It's hard but it can definitely be done. I started by looking at what God said in the Bible about lying and found that He hates it. Focus on His truths and knowing that you can do all things because He will give you His strength to do it. I believe in you and I know that you can beat this.
Just as DonewithLying has stated - you made that first big step - admittance. Lying is a beast that wants to fight at every tooth and nail to keep it buried and uncontrollable. But you are already pushing through it - hold on to it and keep saying to yourself and outloud - I want to stop I NEED to stop. Believe in god, say prayers. Look at yourself in the mirror and know that you are better than the lies. I've dealt with this beast for over 20 years have hurt too many people ruined too many relationships. This is a day by day process, it's not going to happen every night. But every day you go without a lie, is another day that you've gotten stronger. You have the support of all of us here. Stay strong you can do it!