Liars Anonymous Community Group

A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!

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Flipper1022 10/29/2018

Hi I am a liar. I have lied my entire life. I can not remember a day when I was completly honest. Today my wife confronted me about time I was supposed to request off at work. She believed that I never asked for the time off and when she got close to me she smelled that I had been smoking. Something I was hiding for months. We have recently been on a very good path with mutual respect for each other. I have lied to her since the beginning. She has been able to always forgive me and trust me again through so many different lies. The most significant lies were Porn Addiction, hiding my tips, and lying about smoking. This was so incredibly bad today. To see my wife hurting, in so much disbelief, so sad, and so angry made me want to just disappear. (Not suicide, just be gone). I have not viewed or looked for porn in a long time due to help with counsiling. I have been to several different counselors over the past 10 years. I love her so much and want to stop lying. She is the most incredible woman in the world. I am scared she won't take me back because I have never seen her in pain and hurt like I did today.

rp1234 10/31/2018

Very similar situation and I feel the pain you have as well. Always try and remember if you feel shameful about lying/hiding/sneaking you are in the very first steps to figuring out how you can begin to forgive yourself so you can work on the underlying issues to the habit of lying. Everyone is a little different but even trying to say one truth a day will help too.

Flipper1022 10/31/2018

Rp1234, thank you very much for the encouraging thoughts. It is very appreciated.

Flipper1022 11/01/2018

Well today was a good day. It can always be better. Last night/early this morning I finally had the talk I had been dreading for the last few days. It was the first time I had even seen my wife since Monday. She needed answers and I gave them too her. I even omitted many things that she was unaware of. To say i feel hope would be a lie, but i do feel relieved. I was able to be honest and it was much much more difficult than lying! She inevitably still feels I'm not being completely honest but how could she after all of my lies and the rug being pulled out from under her. Today I received a tip at work. Another very sore subject because that is how I was able to keep smoking. I texted her the amount of my tip and i also said that I would be stopping to buy a pack on my way home. A huge step for me. I know it takes little steps and I feel I made one.

fattymcslimjim 11/02/2018

I too have had problems with porn and I have lied to my wife on numerous occasions and has forgiven me too many times. It makes us feel undeserving of their love and brings on the feeling of shame. keep fighting for her and your relationship. keep striving to change and rely on the support of others.

Flipper1022 11/02/2018

Thank u for commenting. It is amazing how similar all of our stories are and that we are not alone.

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