Liars Anonymous Community Group
A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!
Hi I am new and really need a place to be honest about some of my biggest lies.
I want to be happy and successful and I realize now I can't do that while I am lying.
I am 28 and get extremely jealous when I see people happy and having a family. I want that but my lies are preventing me.
I have been married for 6 years to a man I've been with for 11 years. We own a home and he works for my family so even though I don't feel in love with him, I have had affairs and we have not been intimate for years I feel stuck.
I don't want to hurt him and I am scared to go though the process of breaking up because he is a part of my family.
But I lie to him all the time about where I am and who I'm with and work. He has caught me and is suspicious all the time. Which just makes me lie more.
I recently had an affair with a man who is a recovering alcoholic. He relapsed and it was traumatic for me. He is sober now and I want to build a life with him, I love him and he loves me. Well, he loved me but just yesterday broke it off with me because he caught me lying. I couldn't sleep at his house because I have a husband. I would make excuses. He doesn't deserve that. But I do love him and want to be with him. I just don't know how to get out of this mess. I wish my life was different.
I just keep lying.
But I want to stop. I'm scared. I don't think I can do it.
I am younger and not married, but I was in a committed four year relationship and something similar happened.
Have you sat down with your husband and talked to him about your unhappiness? I am sure he notices the lack of intimacy and happiness from you and by having a talk- it might make it easier to break up.
As for the other gentleman, will he still talk to you? And, is he only not talking because you lied? Perhaps you could try and set up a conversation face to face and tell him where you’re at.
Once you start the first step, the latter may be easy to begin.
Seems to me the lies are because you’re searching for happiness in a part of your life you don’t currently receive it....
Why does it feel easier to continue the lies?
I have been married almost 8 years now, and I have had my troubles with lying and cheating. It has been a HUGE strain on my marriage..I have been lucky enough to have a husband who has been willing to work with me on and with my problems..but if it keeps happening I know he's going to end it.
I have asked myself that question many many times...and have never been able to come up with a viable answer. The only one that I can say is that it's easier to hide than it is to be viewed - especially when being viewed (telling the truth) could have major consequences. And that's where the problem falls - how do we get passed that fear of being viewed by telling the truth. I wrestle with it on a daily basis. But have to remind myself..what's going to be worse? Lying about everything, possibly getting caught and losing it all or telling the truth and praying that if you come clean there might be willingness to work with you...