Liars Anonymous Community Group

A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!

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JohnDoe66 05/14/2018

I understand people lie to save face, I have lied for so damn long its ridiculous. Well now I've reached a point in my adulthood that it's time to face the facts. I. Am. A. Liar. It's about to cost me the best thing that's ever happened to me. I dont want to do it, but the problem is that I'm so hardwired, I just lie right off the bat. Before i even think of anything else, its just a default response.

How do people address the impulsive?

ScottRandJr 05/14/2018

My counselor told me today when I am in a situation that I feel like i want to lie I should ask myself What am I trying to get out of the lie and what am I trying to protect if i lie. Not sure how that will work but hope it helps

JohnDoe66 05/14/2018

Thanks for the reply. How would you handle it if you were asked a question? How does one reprogram their defence mechanism?

Formysake 05/14/2018

I've been keeping a journal where I write out my lies and the circumstances in which they occur in order to keep tabs on it and maybe recognize a pattern, for instance types of situations and moments that I lie more than at other times. I have been talking to myself in the mirror. Silly, I know, but seems to be helping. I don't like being lied to and definitely don't like being the one lieing to me. If I can be truthful to myself, knowing I'm worth it, it helps me to be truthful to others in turn. It's still a very heft project, but it's only day 2 for me.

Another thing that helps is to think of my faith and religion. It teaches that I should be truthful. Of course, religion is very personal, and I respect your choice to either believe in something or not. But if you do, hold tight to it.

I know I'm not expected to be perfect and I'm loved in spite of my flaws, but because I believe, I want to try to do my best for love of my God and in service to Him.

As I said, faith is your very personal choice, and I am definitely in no position to preach, but I do encourage you to ascribe to a set of principles or something that can help hold you accountable. My father was an alcoholic and I know in AA, many ascribed to god as simply an abbreviation for good orderly direction.

Hope that makes sense and helps at least maybe a little.

ScottRandJr 05/15/2018

John...For me sometimes its a stop pause kinda thing. For me now most of the time I have programmed myself to complete the stop pause in a matter of seconds, because I realise that the world looks at someone who stops and pauses as a liar. IT takes time, and practice

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