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First time post. I'm scared.

Jackshelley
Jackshelley

I just admitted the truly terrible person I am to my wife and family just hours ago. I'm sitting here wondering if my wife will leave me and if my family will abandon me. I've been terrible. Told my wife we had all of this money coming in, that we were buying a house. So many other things. I jumped through hoop after hoop to support my lies until I couldn't take it anymore. I've put my family in a terrible position. I don't even know why I'm here posting this. Just reaching out. Is there any way through this? If I do the work can I have a normal life again? please help

gwilly
gwilly
The answer is yes, to a certain extent. And by that I mean with changes to your habits to make sure you dont lie anymore and to rebuild your families trust and feelings of security. Its not easy, but can be done.
DavidAJ
DavidAJ
Been there done that. You're not alone though you might feel that way. I don't know your situation so I won't try to tell you what is going to help. Let me tell you absolutely will not help. First, don't try to justify the injury in any way. You hurt your wife and family. There is no good excuse that they want to hear. Second, don't try to build yourself up by saying you were doing it for their benefit. Lies are always for selfish reasons. Finally, let them know you feel bad about what you did, but don't wallow in it. What will build more confidence is that they see you are doing everything you can to repair the financial and emotional damage. Are you a liar? Don't lie to yourself as you answer that question. I would bet this isn't your first lie to your wife and family. It is possible to rebuild trust, and it will take a lot of hard work on your part, and understand it may or may not work, but it's worth doing the work anyway. I'm sorry you're in this pickle, as I've been there, and I'm still searching for the new normal. What helped me was to finally face up to the truth and own it along with entering into counseling and a whole lot of prayer. I wish you well.
gwilly
gwilly
Those are great points David. Two more cents from me would be 2 try to work with your family, your wife or husband 2 let them see the things you're doing so they might be able to get some security from that. You might also be able to get I just from them that would help you change and get your habits and temptations under control. The things you mentioned that you did or not unlike what a lot of us have done. Just hang in there, keep reading on this website to get as many ideas from others as you can. You can do it.
gwilly
gwilly
Those are great points David. Two more cents from me would be 2 try to work with your family, your wife or husband 2 let them see the things you're doing so they might be able to get some security from that. You might also be able to get I just from them that would help you change and get your habits and temptations under control. The things you mentioned that you did or not unlike what a lot of us have done. Just hang in there, keep reading on this website to get as many ideas from others as you can. You can do it.