I have been at it for 30+ years and do remember lying when I was young. Various reasons I have discovered for why I started and why I continued. But I have found some things to do to help me stay on the straight and narrow and I do definitely believe it can be fixed.

I think we all can trace our issue back to childhood. I grew up in a mixed family my father had two sons from a previous marriage and my youngest brother and I were from his second and final marriage. My parents manipulated each other with lies. Growing up we moved around a lot 17 places before I graduated high school. All this to say I learned to lie from my parents example. I learned it was a tool to make me important to help people. Now 30 years latter I have come to my end. I have come within inches of divorce because of untruth. You see my wife grew up in the same kind of household where mom and dad manipulated the situation with lies and secrets but she went full on the opposite direction and clings to truth at all cost. It can be done. It is not about blame or pinning all our sins on our parents. It comes down to accountability something that can only come from groups like this. It is a struggle that only can be understood by another liar, much like alcoholics, drug addicts, or any type of addiction. It is important that we self analyse, that we get in relationship with others like us. It is important that we find a relationship with God and give Him every part of our life. Success comes from keeping the memory of the pain we have caused in front of us. Being cognitive of the damage can help us to catch ourselves before the words come out of our mouth. Will we be perfect no but it will go a long way if we stop right after it comes out and say that was not true. Stay in the post read stuff going back each of the struggles on here are so helpful in figuring our own issue out. Secondly share your story especially as people come on it is all therapy and great help. I will be praying for you as you walk through this struggle.