Best thing to do is to tell someone you trust and be open and vulnerable. Yeah it's hard, but healing begins there. I did and I'm living in the truth

Thank you for that advice. I need to find someone that I trust on that level. My fear is that I will be judged from the time I tell them moving forward

Make sure that the person you tell is someone who is completely accountable and will not tell others.

It is good that you got here on this platform. I can fully understand your situation; I went through similar issues. I am recovering and know how it is to hit the bottom. Talking to another person was not enough for me, and I would like to share an article that might be helpful

https://www.recovery.org/pro/articles/liar-liar-how-to-break-free-from-habitual-lying/

The following five issues helped me a lot

Admit that you have a problem with lying. As long as you are in denial, you won’t stop lying. In my case it took a while unless I could accept that I was helpless.
Be accountable to someone. Talk to a friend, a counselor, or a 12-step sponsor and commit to being completely truthful with them.
Consider the consequences. Sooner or later, your lies will be exposed, and you risk losing people’s trust and friendship. But by admitting your lies and committing to positive change, it is more likely that you will be given a second chance to repair broken trusts.
Journal. When you lie, reflect on the reasons for your lies. Become aware of automatic, habituated, irrational thoughts. Then consider alternate, more positive choices that will help you meet your emotional needs with honesty and honor.
Set positive, life-enhancing goals and make concrete plans to work toward these. Give yourself something to be genuinely proud of yourself about, so that lies and deceptive, pretentious ego-boosts are no longer necessary in your life.

The first item, admitting that I have a problem, was the hardest one. My mind told me: I have full control, I won't do it again. It was my wrong assumption that I could control it with my mind and my will. I had to learn and to admit that it is a combination of cognitive, spiritual and emotional factors that leads to recovery. I have been working along a 12 step AA programme, which worked well for me. Just replace alcohol with lies.

Yesterday I lie for the most stupid thing to my wife, I starting reading books again but I think I need extra help any suggestions?

I have the same problem of you I start ready a really good book is called How to stop Lying its explain you all kinds of lies and give you tips If you can find and read it good luck

Thank you all for you replies but something amazing happened within this last past two days. I took a trip down memory lane and found out that my whole life was based on a lie. Not by my choice but because I allowed my family close friends t make decisions for me that I should have been able to make for myself. Now that I see that my life was based on a lie everything else following would be a lie also. Now I just tell the truth wether it hurts people or not...now I don’t do it in an unethical way but I definitely don’t feel the need to lie anymore.. if people don’t accept my truth then that’s there problem but I must be me. Period. So, for some of you that’s finding yourself in this trap I would suggest reviewing your life and if your living to please others.. if so then you must escape that big lie trap and get real with yourself so you can be real with others