I'm not sure about the anger part, but I do remember that when I was in college, my brother and I were roommates and worked at an explosives plant with a bunch of other guys that made us somewhat crazy. We never did, but we talked about buying a heavy bag and hang it in our room to punch out our frustrations. As is was, we ended up going to the gym and played basketball for the same frustration release. Maybe some sort of athletics would work for you.

The lying part I feel like I have has some success. Here is my plan. Maybe it will help you, as I use it or in a modified form that you suits you better.
1) Figure out who you are right now.
2) Decide who you want to be for real.
3) Come up with a plan to get to the person you want to be, (education, money, personality, etc., the things you usually lie about).
4) Discuss 1, 2 and 3 with your significant other.
5) Discuss it with your SO every day (this is important).

This a very simplified explanation, but think about it. It has done me some good.

I'll try it thank you

I am in an extremely similar situation - same age, same type of issues. Please keep posted about how things work out.

The thing is, you are normal. I find when I try to stuff down and deny myself the normal parts of being human - being needy, getting angry, just not feeling like doing what you gotta do, is all very normal. Our lying to cope with the discomfort rather than the actual feeling is what twists us up.