Great you came to this platform. I know from my own experience how it feels to deny and to get into lying. Looking back to my own experience, I am convinced that the very first thing is to admit that
you are helpless in coping with your lies, which means to accept that you need help.
I finally found help in a twelve step program that I did with a therapist. The 12 step approach stems from the AA tradition but applies to any type of compulsive behavior. Additionally, you will find online resource on compulsive lying that might be helpful. I am happy to share more if this will be helpful for you.

Welcome to the group and know that changes start with the way we behave. One thing that I have found to work for me is the MOMENT OF PAUSE. This is the moment before you normally lie. Stop breath and think, if you can give yourself that moment you can change your behavior. I had to go back to my childhood and find where my lying started. Don't be afraid to uncover your past, because it may very well be the path to your new future. Stay connected to the group you will always need support and that's what we are here for.

i have the same problem read books about lying and challenge yourself to tell the truth you can do it; This book can help you How to stop lying https://www.amazon.com/How-Stop-Lying-Pathological-Psychopathy-ebook/dp/B00GKTSDZY

Thank you for the advice. I will look into the book. It is a start at least. I have looked into my past. When I was little I couldn't reply tell the truth because fact was I would be punished so badly for it. Being honest wasn't an option for me. My mother would lash out at me for telling the truth. So lied to keep out of trouble. I lied for a long time. For as long as I lived.

By the way, what are the 12 steps I need to recover? Also I am looking for a sponsor to kick me in line when I do lie. Can anyone help !e with that? Where do I even start looking for a sponsor?

Welcome! The first step is admitting you have a problem with lying which you have done and the second is to call for help which you have done also. The next steps after are consistent reminders to yourself not to lie because the truth is better than a lie 9 times out of 10.

I was a compulsive liar for nearly my lifetime and I was not proud of it. I didn't admit it was a problem and second of all, I lied to myself. Break the cycle of lying to yourself and come into contact with people that will help you break the cycle of telling a lie. You can do this! We are here to help!

Welcome, best advice. Would say is to challenge yourself to be blatantly honest even if you know it will cause conflict. Be comepletelg open in your thoughts and actions. I struggle with lying very much and this is something I work on. I have a long way to go but will get there. Stay positive and keep challenging yourself. Also set daily reminders of the consequences of your lies. Impacts on others are what I struggle with. Good luck!

Welcome, glad you found the group but sorry you had too. I struggle as well and feel a good starting point is to challenge yourself to be too honest. I tend to try to avaoid conflict which leads to my lies. I’ve challenged myself to not create or look for conflict but to face it head on. It’s amazing how good it feels to support and explain your decisions even if you know it will be met with conflict. I Also set daily reminders to keep my honesty on the brain all the time. It’s all helping but i need to keep working at it. Good luck!