I have been on a similar path like yours I thankfully have been able to get free from it within the first year of my marriage. I did the same things that you I lied without thinking because I wanted to give an immediate answer without giving it much thought it alternate Lee gave us a lot of arguments and pain. I know a good place where I can tell the truth freely and without question. It will take work it will take time ask for help don't feel like you can do it on your own but ask for help. We're all here to support.

Sorry my speech software wrote a lot of the wrong words. To sum it up I have been where you are I continue to work hard and you are in a good group of people that will support you.

Thanks. Much appreciated. I've just started my journey, and I know its going to be tough, but it is something I want to change.

One thing that works for me is a find a moment of pause. Meaning before I answer anything where I think I might lie I pause and think. Some times that's walking in mid sentence some times that's sitting there saying nothing out loud, but saying it all in my head.

Lying is a behavior that is developed and with practice you to can be lie free.

I know pausing is helpful but also difficult to practice in reality. I’m working on noticing feelings or reactions or changes in how I feel in order to pause and think. If you can notice a change in behavior or mood, it should become easier to amuse and think. I’m trying this, you should give it a try as well.

Finding that moment of pause is the hardest for me, but it's coming. I've been starting my day talking to myself...mostly in the bathroom mirror. Think of how you feel when you are lieing to yourself. Doesn't feel too great. It helps me to gain oersoective before I hegin my day.

And as I've encouraged everyone else I've talked to here, keep two journals. One for truths, one for the lies. Hopefully, you will find that the truth journal will fill more easily...over time. This will not hapoen over night. It's a journey. Don't be discouraged if you see the lue journal fill up more quickly at first. In our situation, that should be expected, but each time you make an entry to your truth journal, it can be a source of encouragement and motivation.

Hope this helps.