Liars Anonymous Community Group

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Claning73
Claning73

So it's been 6 months since I joined this group. Since I came clean about the lies. About my life. And I can say in the last 6 months things have become better for the most part. The difficult part is that the woman who stayed with me through all of it still feels the need to throw in my face and remind me all about all of the lies and the hurt I caused. I dont think she truly realizes that I know the hurt I caused. I know the lies and deception hurt people. But does throwing it in my face all the time really accomplish anything. I guess it confuses me. 


Wanderingtina
Wanderingtina
It depends how long the lies went on and how severe they were. Obviously you know you did damage, but try to put yourself in her shoes. Honestly Ask yourself how you would feel if she did the same things to you. Would you be willing to forgive and work things out with her? What would you need from her in order to be able to trust again?

It sounds like she is struggling to trust again and needs some reassurance from you. If you have lied about anything since then, it re-shatters the trust that was so difficult to rebuild and compounds the issue. If she is lashing out at you, she is in pain. If she keeps bringing up the past, she is clearly still hurt by it. Ask yourself if she is worth the work to endure until she can trust you again.
Maybe it's time for counseling, if you are not already in it.